“10 Signs Your Mental Illness Is Made Up For Attention”

“10 Signs Your Mental Illness Is Made Up For Attention”


Hello everybody Claudia Boleyn here and today’s
video is going to be an unpleasant one I’m afraid. As someone who talks about social
justice issues, mental health, all that kind of stuff on the internet I’m often linked
to various articles and I don’t often get the time to read them all but I was linked
to one specific article the other day that I did have time to look at and it made me
so angry that I felt I had to make a video about it. Now there are lots of articles that
make me angry on the internet but this one really did strike a chord with me as one of
THE most disgusting articles I’ve ever had the displeasure of reading with my own two
eyes. It’s not one of those articles for young women
about things that young men don’t find attractive. I actually find those articles, you know,
where they have the list of 10 different types of clothing or make up styles that men don’t
find attractive, I find them really helpful because I know exactly what to put on my face
and body to deter those sorts of men and keep them away from my life so I actually find
them great. But this article aims all of its hatred, bigotry
and bias at the mentally ill. Now what I don’t understand is why you would wake up in the
morning and think to yourself, I’m going to write a article which puts down the mentally
ill. I just don’t understand what would make someone who isn’t mentally ill themselves,
I assuming this person isn’t mentally ill themselves, certainly the people commenting
on it and sharing it around aren’t mentally ill themselves, but what would make you want
in your heart to go out there and upset and make life more difficult for those that are
already struggling with mental illness. I don’t understand those sorts of people, I
don’t understand how it’s beneficial to anyone at all.
So the title of this article is: 10 Signs Your Mental Illness Is Made Up For Attention.
I’m sure just hearing that title there are alarm bells going off in your brain and there
are red flags waving all over the place but it gets much worse, and if you sit through
this video with me, I’m gonna go through this article with you. It’s probably gonna make
quite angry if you are a)mentally ill or b)a nice human being. But I had to make some sort
of response to this, because these are the beliefs that I see flying around on the internet
and in real life every single day and they make life as a mentally ill person even harder
than it was already. And it’s already pretty hard to get through your life as a mentally
ill person, so, you know you don’t need these extra hurdles shoved in your way by neurotypical
people who have no clue what it’s like. Here’s the introduction to the article: “These
are the obvious signs that, even if you do struggle with some anxiety/depression/whatever,
you are exaggerating a decent part of it for all the attention (and the excuses) that it
provides you. If you see someone acting like this, please
call them out.” I am so glad that there are hordes of neurotypicals
out there ready to hunt out the ‘fake mentally ill’, apparently to help us, the real mentally
ill. I didn’t realise that neurotypicals had this skill. Apparently they have better skills
at spotting and understanding mental illness than the mentally ill themselves. That’s really
impressive. Well done. Number 1: ” Your definitions of illness change
all the time. One day, depression means you can’t get out of bed or tie your shoes or
pay bills. The next, it means you want to stay home and watch movies. The next, it’s
not that serious. Your definitions change all the time, depending on context and how
“sick” you really want to look.” Now I’m someone who’s suffered with depression
for most of my life and it’s a very very unpleasant mental illness and sometimes it makes you
feel so bad you feel life isn’t even worth living and I’ve attempted suicide twice before.
It’s a really dark and horrible place to be in and it is an illness. It’s not something
that you voluntarily go through for attention, it is an illness and just because it can’t
be seen from the outside doesn’t mean it’s not real. But the thing is with depression
is that it isn’t always consistent. Because it is a mental illness it is very up and down.
Now I suffer depression and but I have good days and I have bad days. Now some days I
can’t get out of bed, I don’t want to shower, I curl up in ball and I cry and I think about
suicide, and that is me at my very lowest. But some days when I’m also suffering from
depression I am able to be more active. I will still have a low state of mood and I
will have these bad urges and I will feel very down, but I will be able to be more active
on those days and do more things. What I’m trying to say is that there is no one state
of depression. With most depressed individuals you’ll have good days and you’ll have bad
days because it is an illness you can’t control, and we’re obviously trying to recover and
fight it, so on the days when it is more fightable we’re obviously gonna try and get out there
and do stuff, but there are also gonna be days where we’re just gonna cry in bed.
That’s not the sign of someone lying about their illness that’s the sign of someone being
truthful with you about what they are capable of doing on each day. Anyone with any knowledge
of depression or any experience with depression would know that, so it is quite worrying that
the person writing this article has got that as a signifier of a ‘fake mental illness’
or someone whose attention seeking. Number 2: “You are constantly sharing shit
about it on social media. Every time someone writes a #powerful #essay on whatever website
about their struggle with upper-middle-class anxiety, you share it. You share “How to
date someone with ____.” You share “7 things only people with OCD know.” It’s
your whole identity, and you’re constantly reminding people that you are sick and brave
and in a permanent struggle against the world.” Now this is gonna be a fun point to pick apart.
So in this second bullet point of this wonderful helpful list to find the fake mentally ills
‘you are constantly sharing shit about it on social media’. Now why would sharing information
about mental illness especially a mental illness that you or a family member struggles from,
why on earth would that be a bad thing? I often share articles about mental illnesses
I don’t have to help people with those mental illnesses fight to stigma and to educate other
people, I often share articles about the issues that I do have so people can better understand
where I’m coming from, and my family often share these things as well just because they’re
decent human beings that want to educate others and to help the mentally ill.
I didn’t realise that to be a ‘real mentally ill person’ you had to sit very quietly in
the corner and never mention it. And what is this rubbish about ‘upper middle
class anxiety’. Now of course if we look at society there is a thing called classism and
people have privilege based on class, but when it comes to mental illness it doesn’t
discriminate. Anyone from the richest to the poorest, in any country in the world can get
depression because it’s a mental illness. The ignorance of that statement is mind-blowing.
And the next point says ‘ it’s your whole identity and you’re constantly reminding people
that you are sick and brave and in a permanent struggle against the world’.
Now this shows nothing at all about the mentally ill people who are sharing their stories and
education about other mental illnesses, all it really shows is the ignorance of the writer
of this ‘article’ if it can even be called an article instead of a total list of hatred.
I don’t know about you guys, but for me personally, being mentally ill has majorly shaped my life
and it’s a huge part of my life, it impacts my life every single day, I can’t just forget
about it. But me saying that I’m mentally ill proudly online and being able to say,
look, I might be ill but I’m fighting through it and I’m not ashamed of it, it doesn’t make
it my whole identity. I love history and I love art and I love music and I love Star
Wars and I love, I love so many things. To be honest I think it’s more a reflection of
these horrible ableist people that aren’t able to see you as a person beyond your mental
illness. I have never ever in my life, and i talk to a lot of mentally ill people and
read a lot of mentally ill people’s blogs and that stuff, but I’ve never in my life
seen a mentally ill person try to make out their mental illness is their whole identity.
Why would somebody want to do that? Is there any evidence of anyone in the history of the
world ever doing this. That is just so amazingly questionable to me and I feel like that’s
been plucked out of the writer’s arse. Number 3: “You list it in your bios. If your
bio announces from the get-go that you have depression — before you even mention, I
don’t know, a job or a hobby or an accomplishment, you need help. And not in the “Lexapro”
department, in the “you have nothing interesting to say about yourself besides a disorder”
department.” Now this seriously riles me as someone who
does have my mental illness in my bio on my tumblr account, and the reason I have my mental
illness in my bio, and the reason other mentally ill people tend to do this is so we can relate
to other mentally ill people. If I am looking for blogs to follow I might think to myself,
you know I’d love to see a blog by a person who understands the struggle of anxiety or
depression or BPD. So it’s really helpful if in their bio it says that they suffer from
those illnesses because you can think, ah this person will understand, this person posts
content which is relevant to what I’m interested in and that will help me in my life, I’m going
to follow them. Also some people like to push back at the
ableism of society and to say, I’m not ashamed of it, here it is, it’s right here, it’s out
there on my blog, it’s on my twitter header, it’s on whatever site I’m on, I’m not ashamed
of it and you’re gonna have to deal with it. And also you can’t win with these sorts of
people, like the sort of person that wrote this ‘article’ because if you didn’t put your
illnesses in your sidebar or your bio and then happened to mention that you were mentally
ill, they would then accuse you of not being mentally ill because you hadn’t been completely
‘honest and upfront’ about it the whole time. Number 4: “You use it to be an asshole to
other people. If you don’t call someone back, it’s not because phones give you anxiety.
It’s because you’re an inconsiderate asshole. If you don’t show up to a friend’s birthday
party, it’s not because you are bad in social situations. It’s because you’re an inconsiderate
asshole. If you take your stress out on your significant other constantly for no reason,
it’s not because you’re depressed. It’s because you’re an inconsiderate asshole.
Mental illness (although convenient) is not a catch-all reason to treat people like shit.” Oh good lord. Let’s start with the first point
about not calling someone back. I’m not sure if the person who wrote this understands,
but lots of people with anxiety do find talking on the phone quite difficult. This is a known
feature of anxiety so I don’t understand why that’s even on the list. It doesn’t make you
an inconsiderate arsehole if you’re having a terrible day and you’re curled up in bed
and you don’t want to answer the phone. I don’t know about you guys who are mentally
ill out there but my friends and my family understand that sometimes I do have really
really bad days so if they need to contact me and I’m not answering the phone sometimes
they’ll text me, I’l be able to look at my phone and give them a text back when I’m ready.
People don’t realise how difficult it can be to interact with other people when you
are that depressed, when you are having a day that’s that bad. You don’t even have the
energy to get out of bed sometimes, so you are definitely not going to have the energy
to interact with another person. The next point: ‘if you don’t show up at a
friend’s birthday party it’s not because you’re bad in social situations, it’s because you’re
an inconsiderate arsehole’. I feel like this writer has some personal experience with their
bestie not turning up to their party and I might suggest that the reason their bestie
didn’t turn up to their party, maybe they did use mental illness as an excuse, maybe
they weren’t mentally ill, maybe they just wanted to get out of going to this absolute
arsehole’s party? Can you blame them for doing that? I can’t. I wouldn’t want to go to this
person’s party, it would be rubbish. One that’s more serious: ‘if you take your
stress out on your significant other constantly for no reason it’s not because you’re depressed,
it’s because you’re an inconsiderate arsehole’. Now I completely agree with this but I don’t
see what this has got to do with mental illness in general. Being an abusive partner is obviously
very wrong and I don’t know why this is in a list with depressed people not calling people
back and sometimes not feeling well enough to go to parties. Number 5: “When it’s convenient, your illness
takes a back seat. Unless something really fun is coming up and you manage to get it
together, or you want to impress a date by pretending that you’re really active and
outgoing and happy! Then you’re fine :)” The ignorance of this point is absolutely
overwhelming, let’s tackle the bit about ‘you want to impress a date by pretending that
you’re really active and outgoing and happy’. Now why would that mean that someone is not
really mentally ill? Does that not mean that unfortunately in this society there is a stigma
towards those that are mentally ill so many of us, if we were in a romantic situation,
on a first date sort of thing, we would feel very nervous and worried about disclosing
that information to the person that we liked. Why would that reflect badly on the person
that’s ill and not on society in general? Also if I was going on a date, I’d be really
worried that this date I don’t really know would be like the writer of this article and
the moment I told them they’d start treating me like absolute rubbish and like I was some
sort of fraud. So I don’t think the writer of this article understands that they’re perpetuating
the whole cycle, and if they want mentally ill people to stop ‘pretending to be fine’
on dates and things and tricking them or whatever, then they need to help fight the stigma of
mental illness so that more of us feel like we can be more honest straight away. Number 6: “You think it’s “controversial”
to talk about. If you think it’s still a “controversial” thing to announce to your
Facebook friends that you struggle with bouts of anxiety, you’re either living under a
rock or looking to be a martyr. It’s not controversial anymore. Everyone is open about
their struggles with mental illness, and posting stuff about “u shouldn’t be ashamed of
ur depression girlfriend~~~” is just redundant. If you need to announce it, fine, but don’t
pretend like you’re being brave by saying you’re sad sometimes.” Okay let’s just clear one thing up, having
depression which is a mental illness is not ‘being sad sometimes’. Having a mental illness
like depression drives lots of people to suicide. How you can compare that with feeling sad
occasionally is completely beyond me. They say it’s not a controversial thing to talk
about and yet they’ve written an entire article with 10 points trying to make it controversial.
Are you trying to tell me that you’re trying to normalise mental illness with this hateful
article? How is that helping anyone? How can you say it’s not controversial and difficult
to talk about mental illness when there are articles like this floating around where neurotypicals
get to band together and try and seek out the ‘fake mentally ill’? Do you not think
that makes life just a little bit difficult for mentally ill people? Seeing articles like this and how many people
seem to agree with it, makes me know that those mentally ill people who are able to
be open about their struggles are being brave. I guarantee you that if you’re a mentally
ill person online who is open about your mental illness, you will receive some form of hate
from someone who does not understand mental illness, accusing you or being a faker. Basically
accusing you of any of these points that we’ve read so far and some which we have yet to
read but are looking forward to. Number 7: “Even though your relationships
have clear patterns, you don’t accept that they might be your fault. It’s never you!
It’s always your string of completely unique exes who all just happened to be terrible
people and just couldn’t accommodate your #illness. Ugh. Next time, you’ll date someone
who “gets” you.” Again I can’t help but think that behind this
point is some of story where the writer maybe had a bad relationship with someone who is
mentally ill. Maybe they used to constantly go on about this weird checklist they have
for being mentally ill and it destroyed their relationship with the mentally ill person
and now they’ve got some sort of beef about it deep in their soul. And if we go back to the ‘point’ of this article,
which is how to spot when mental illness is made up, then I don’t actually see how this
point has anything to do with that? How is ‘it’s your fault your relationships are going
wrong’ in any way tied up with ‘your mental illness is fake’? I just don’t get that, that seems like a huge
leap. Number 8: “You constantly post baiting things
so that people will ask what’s wrong. “It’s been a bad day. :(” “Not feeling good.”
“Ugh, I can’t even.” Yeah, you’re posting those statuses because you want people
to ask how you are, and you want to vent about it. But everyone has problems, and using the
“feel sorry for me” card over and over again is incredibly irritating for everyone
around you.” Again we can see how this list has basically
turned into ‘I hate the mentally ill’ instead of ‘these people are faking their mental illness’.
Funny how quickly it’s spiralled into that territory isn’t it? I agree, I do find that annoying as well.
I’m on Facebook and sometimes I do feel a bit pissed off and I see someone write ‘oh
rubbish day’ and you do know they want attention and part of me thinks, why don’t you just
tell us what’s wrong? But then I think again and that’s what’s society’s done to me, to
make me think that wanting attention and expressing emotion is bad, but if we really think about
it, what is actually wrong with that? Is it hurting anybody? Is it a bad thing for a person
to want attention? Isn’t it more of a sad thing that that person needs to get attention
from other people and feels like they can’t express themselves properly.
Also, maybe these people wouldn’t be so vague about their issues if they weren’t afraid
of arseholes like the writer of this article ripping them apart for actually talking about
their problems. Maybe they had a bad day because they couldn’t answer an important phone call
because they were feeling so bad, but if they were to write that then someone would link
them to this article. Maybe that is the problem? Number 9: “You’re not really trying to get
better. Maybe you take medication. Maybe you’re in therapy. But when it comes to the behavior
that you’re doing over and again, you’re not interested in doing the hard work that
is required to overcome mentally ill behaviors. You’re interested in talking about it, and
identifying as a person who has ____, but you’re not interested in being better. Because
that’s no fun.” Hm, now if someone is taking medication for
their mental illness and they’re also engaging in therapy, then how can they be accused of
trying not to get better? Why do you think someone puts themselves through medication
and therapy? Medication has been really helpful in my life for dealing with panic attacks
and anxiety and my moods which can swing quite badly, but at the same time it has bad side
effects, no one really wants to be on medication, it makes you feel quite ill sometimes, and
as for therapy, it’s a very brave thing to do, to go to therapy. It’s very very difficult
to talk about mental illness because of the stigma and shame that society puts onto you.
It’s a real challenge to go to therapy and anyone who does go to therapy and is able
to be honest and talk about their illness and try to figure out ways to help themselves
is a really brave person and I really respect them. This person says that you might take medication
and you go to therapy, but when it comes to the behaviour that you’re doing over and over
again you’re not interested in doing the hard work that is required of you. What is this
mysterious hard work that is required of me? I’d like to know what this is, cause if there
is some other form of making me better I’d love to try it, cause I can tell you that
being mentally ill is not fun, it’s not fun to be 21 year old and to start crying and
having panic attacks in public and not be able to go beyond 20 minutes of my house,
and sometimes to lie in bed crying and want to kill myself. That’s not fun, I can assure
you I would far rather life without the mental illness. How incredibly ignorant and offensive
is it to say that it’s fun to have a mental illness. This has clearly been written by
someone who’s never experienced mental illness because it is absolute hell. I would not wish
mental illness on my worst enemy and there are people in the world that I truly truly
hate but I could not wish this on them. This one has just made me so cross, I have to move
on to the next point now. Oh my gosh this is a gem, okay. Number 10: “AND FINALLY pansexuals, demisexuals
and the other special snowflakes of the LGBT community. Although sexuality is not a mental
illness these people who have to be special snowflakes need to be called out more. It’s
demeaning to people who struggle with their sexuality as it makes it seem like some kind
of joke. You’re either straight, bi, gay or asexual in some cases. There is no need
to make up your own label.” What does the LGBT community have to do with
people faking mental illness? What sort of a reach is this? It’s like the author wasn’t
content with totally ripping apart the mentally ill, like who else has a hard time in society?
I know! The LGBT community, let’s jump on them and make their day rubbish too! I am not even going to get into how amazingly
silly this point is in the first place, I just can’t understand or believe that this
person has dragged the LGBT community into this weird rant. They’re saying that they’re
not comparing those that are mentally ill to those that are in the LGBT community and
making out that having a sexuality that isn’t straight is a mentally illness, but that’s
exactly what they’re doing with this point? Are they God? Have they decided, no there
are just 4 sexualities you can either be gay or bi or asexual or straight, and that’s it!
Who gave them that authority? And who in their right mind actually sits down and thinks,
ah, well I know everything about sexuality, I know that there are only 4 sexualities,
I’m only 1 sexuality myself, we don’t know what the author is, but that means that I
know about all other sexualities and these ones, woah they’re too far out I’m afraid
so they can’t be real. When this started I really didn’t think I
could get worse than it already was, but as you can see we have really spiralled into
the depths of hell with this article, I’m glad you’ve been here with me to go through
this. And a final note from the author who’s called
Malcolm apparently according to the bottom of the page, right: “Mental illness is serious, if you have to
pretend to be mentally ill to get “likes” you are just an idiot. People like these take
the stigma away from mental illnesses and make it seem trivial.” Well thanks Malcolm, because you’ve really
educated people with this post about mental illness, you’ve really supported the mentally
ill, you’ve made us feel very safe and accepted. You’ve made it so much easier for us to be
honest about our mental illness and fight that stigma. It’s like your doing the Lord
work. It’s like you were sent from heaven to help us weird crazy people. Who knew that I was making up my entire mental
illness? I mean you learn something new every day. Right I’m gonna link this article in the information
box at the bottom of this video. There is actually a comment section on this article
so you can say what you think, and I must say it does need some people to get in there
and put these people right because some of the stuff I’m reading on this comment section
is just, it makes me want to bang my head against the wall basically. But anyway feel free to have a read of this
monstrous article for yourself and see what you think. Please tell me what you think about
it in the comments section. I’m sure most people who’ve watched the entirety of this
video will probably be so angry at this point that they’re probably steaming from the ears,
but don’t worry, my friends. I wanna leave this video on a positive note
and I know I’ve been kinda sarcastic throughout and kind of having a laugh about it but it
is really serious and it upsets me that this sort of attitude still exists and you do see
this a lot in real life and it makes life really difficult for people who are mentally
ill. But I am mentally ill my friends and it’s really tough but I am in recovery and
I’m trying to live with it. I know that it’s real, you know that it’s real, we don’t have
to listen to these people. You know you’re trying your hardest and you know how difficult
it is. These people don’t know what they’re talking about, they’ve never experienced it
so I don’t know what right they have to talk about it in the first place but just know
that there’s a lot of love out there for you and try not to get too down about it, cause
there are a lot of people that do want to fight the stigma and educate others and really
do support our community. Okay I love you loads, and I’ll see you really soon for another
video. Goodbye. x

100 Replies to ““10 Signs Your Mental Illness Is Made Up For Attention””

  1. Thank you so much for sharing this. You are wonderful. I admit your video title made me angry, but it worked and got me to watch your video. I'm sure glad I did. Keep speaking your message. You're a beautiful young lady both inside and out. I'm proud of you.

  2. I know I found this a lil while ago and I don't think I have anything I'm just a huge introvert (stay in my room all day in the blankets of my bed drawing and watching youtube) and really really embarrassed and awkward but number four really set me off. Me yelling at the YouTube video on pause while my brother watches in concern: "INCOCIDERATE ASSHOLE?! INCOCIDERATE ASSHOLE!!!!!! OH MY FUCKING LORD WHAT THE THE DID THEY JUST CALL THE SOCIALY ANXIOUS?!? I CAN NOT TO GO A BIRTHDAY PARTY IF I DON'T FUCKING WANT TO!!! ESPCIALLY IF IT'S AT A RESTAURANT OR ARCADE!!!! GOD FUCKING DAMNIT THE HELL IS WRONG WITH PPL!?!?!" My brother: rum I your really lucky mom and dad aren't here. ….

  3. Claudia.. I am so angry.. OMG.. I also suffer from Anxiety and Depression.

    Yeah I get so much attention.. ha.. as I hide in my room in a fetal position and eliminate the people from my life who don't understand. I give my love to those who return my love and try to understand what I'm going through.

    I am very friendly at times… but NOT social. Big difference. " Hi how are you..I love your dress..( to a stranger) " " Would you like to go to lunch with me? You look like you would be fun.." ( Stranger)

    " OH HELL TO THE NO .." ( I'm thinking..) " No thank you.." ( I'm saying)

  4. Now place the word gay in there instead of depression or mental illness. They think with their crotch and center their entire lives around telling other people about their mentally ill sexual choices.

  5. I have anxiety, so I can relate, but I had a "friend" once whom had faked having depression. And I'm not saying that to be rude or anything, but she ACTUALLY faked having depression for no other reason than attention. The only reason I concluded that she faked it was I compared it to other things she'd said and done (such as her constant lying), not to mention that she never exhibited any of the clinical symptoms. I'm not saying I agree with the article AT ALL, but I just had to say that there are assholes out there who fake mental illness for the attention, though they aren't as the article describes.

  6. When people say, “They just do that for attention.” I always reply, “Oh, they must really need that attention then. I’ll give some.”

  7. Ummmmmm. I'm hearing this for the first time. Are you serious? What do you mean anxiety is cute, or used to "look" cute?????? 😲 and depression is "edgy " what??????!!!! The ef?

  8. 1. True. Depression doesn't mean you feel exactly the same every day and all the time. Would it be even possible?

    2. I understand this point differently. Sure, it's perfectly normal for an ill person to share articles about their illness but the thing is people with real mental illness are extremely unlikely to post things like: "I've read an article listing symptoms of depression. OMG, it's totally me!". Or going on constantly: "I'm sure I suffer from depression. I'm going through a real depression. Have I told you about my depression yet?" In other words, it's not posting things concerning a mental illness or talking openly about your affliction, it's rather posting "shit" as if you were boasting you have a mental illness.

    3. Well, it depends on the situation. Mentally ill people are not always ashamed to admit to the whole world they are mentally ill (though it is rare) but if someone mentions their depression with no reason and in a way that's supposed to make them sound cool, well, it's probably not a real mental illness. They just want to be more unique and more interesting to others.

    4. True but depression actually very often makes you "abusive" towards others. I was so mean to my family before I started taking medication. And my psychiatrist told me my extreme anger over the smallest things is a symptom of depression, too. And when I'm saying: "Sorry for being like that, you know it's my depression", I don't mean to use it as an excuse to be an asshole. I say it to let people know I wouldn't shout and say horrible things to them if not for the illness. And I think they feel less hurt since they know my behaviour was due to depression and not caused by hatred towards them.

    5. It depends. If you fake depression, of course you would be magically cured always when something fun is awaiting you. But on the other hand truly depressed people often seem happy from the outside and sometimes even they attend all the parties they can hoping it'll help them (not me, I stay away from people). So this is always the case for fakers but sometimes also for really ill people.

    6. This point is self-contradictory. The article says that fakers are always rubbing their "illness" in other people's faces (which I kinda agree with). But then it claims that fakers are also those who are ashamed to talk about it? On the contrary, it's generally people with real depression who are ashamed to admit they have it. It's still a controversial subject and I've experienced it myself though I didn't think so before that. Here's the story:

    When I was working on my PhD thesis I was diagnosed with depression. I took medication through almost two years and when I stopped (because I was already cured, my doctor said), the depression came back and I couldn't do anything on time. Once I told the professor who supervised my work about my medically diagnosed (!) depression. And he just laughed it off saying he's got depression too, only undiagnosed. Some time later he mentioned depression, saying that yeah, he understands, women can have such mood swings sometimes. Another person said that men can also have depression, and he said it's not possible, since he never experienced anything like it. I was puzzled, to say the least. It was like saying: Women don't suffer from cancer because I'm a woman and I've never had cancer. And he isn't a closed-minded simple man, he's a university professor! So yeah, I felt like shit a little (though I still like him). Since that time I know it IS controversial.

    7. It's true most depressed people would blame themselves about everything but it's not always the case. So, BS.

    8. Sometimes bait posts are just to get attention, and sometimes they are genuine crying for help. It's as simple as that.

    9. Couldn't agree with you more on that. A depressed person doesn't have motivation to do anything, much less to help themselves. I, for example, couldn't believe anything will help me and I felt like I would be just lying to myself. And it's far more likely for a faker to go to several psychiatrist than for a really ill person. I was depressed several years until I went to a PSYCHOLOGIST and it was him who sent me to a psychiatrist. And I know ill people who wouldn't go to a doctor for anything in the world.

    10. Mixing LGBT into all that is a joke or… I don't know.

    And one thing, since it's possible to mistake a really ill person for a faker and it hurts, of course, it can't be denied that such fakers exist and do a very bad job for us, struggling with depression for real. And they upset me more than this article, TBH.

  9. Point 6 reminds me of the sort of assholes who tell LGBTQ+ people "why do we still have Pride month and parades/ why do you people think you need to fight against your "oppression"?? Being gay/lesbian/bisexual/transgender/etc. isn't controversial anymore!"
    A lot of people at my school openly express how homophobic/transphobic they are, and I live in one of the most pro-LGBTQ+ states in the US.

  10. If someone is looking for attention, they likely do have some sort of problem. Maybe it's not the common cold of mental illnesses like depression and/or anxiety, but still an issue. I don't really think it's okay to dismiss someone looking for attention because it's natural to want it, and I think most people deserve it. That was a truly displeasing article. 🙁

  11. I have autism and it’s mind boggling that someone can look at me and say “no you don’t, you can talk, you can walk, etc”

    Aspergers Syndrome is something that can cripple me and when people say things that invalidate it, it’s just inhumane.

  12. Sometimes the help people get doesn't actually help. I used to take medication for my anxiety and depression but it never worked if anything I felt so much worse. What actually helped me is something so weird that it might sound awkward. I watched YouTube and jacksepticeye and Markiplier. Just watching them made me feel better. Not everything society deems helpful is actually helpful. Anyway I enjoyed this video because it helps give light to mental illness.

  13. I had a friend who self-diagnoses herself with mental illnesses I've actually been diagnosed with. She also magically has gone through everything I've been through. I got diagnosed with anxiety then she magically said "Cool I have that too!" But she does it to the point where she tells her friends I'm the one faking when I literally have to go to doctors and take medicines and stuff for them. People like that make me sick

  14. Ah yes. Because a mentally well person would want to commit suicide, have seething hatred for oneself, can only barely function in society unless weird meds are shoved down their throat, constantly cries oneself to sleep, has recurring nightmares, has to check the door 3-5 times before feeling even remotely comfortable, and is constantly afraid of some incredibly vague thing that would happen to them.

    Totally just faking all of it.

  15. The person that wrote that "article" just needs to just trully think to him or herself just treat people the way you want to be treated..

  16. Ohh my lord this is something I needed. So I was dating this girl, all good n fine until she breaks up with me via dm and first of all that feels like no one will ever love you. Then a few days later she starts caling me put for "faking" my illness. This fucking crushed me and I have been very down for so long and this made me feel valid again because I was starting to believe her. Thank you so much.

  17. number 6 reminds me of that stupid comment you can always find under every coming out video: "iT's 2018, yOu DoN't NeEd To CoMe OuT, jUsT sAy YoU'rE gAy AnD gO!!!" Like no, there is still so much ignorance towards lgbt+ people, mentally ill people, racial minorities, etc. It's not 'not controversial anymore' unless EVERYONE accepts it and we're unfortunately SO far from that…

  18. I hardly ever answer my phone or call people. I get extremely anxious or just don't want to interact at that moment. People seem to think we owe them something. We don't owe anyone anything. Period.

  19. I have read in several places that a mental illness is a healthy reaction to a sick society. If you don't have a mental illness then you are totally unaware of what is going on. We live in an increasingly left brained society and sane people have difficulty adapting to it as they aren't overtly left brained. Also there are people who believe that we need to return to a hunter-gatherer society to cure depression as that is how we have evolved and the next best thing is to grow and raise our own food. I can agree with that but it is very difficult to learn how to forage, hunt and fish.

  20. my mom says she has these “mental illnesses” and it’s different every time it’s brought up. it really is annoying because i want to die, and my mind eats away at me until there’s nothing left. like she says she has depression, body dysmorphia, anxiety etc. when she really doesn’t. while i’m over here not able to fall asleep at night with the voices in my head telling me to kill myself. this article is disgusting because imagine someone talking to you and claiming that you are lying about having a mental illness when you suffer every single day. i hope whoever feels bad about themselves get better and hopefully no one calls you out❤️❤️❤️

  21. I have a classmate where if she only gets scolded once she's gonna post in public things like "I hate my life, I have no reason to live, and Miss me when i'm gone" and says that she has depression. It's annoying because depression is not something to be proud of, it's not something that you would ever want in your life.

  22. I know this guy, he likes to pretend his life is oh so terrible. Says he self harms when he doesn’t, says he’s insane but he can “turn it on and off” says his mental illness is like a switch. Everyone takes him seriously. Everyone believes him, teachers, students, everyone. But when I’m having a panic attack over a presentation, when there’s scars up and down my arms, when I *camt even get out of bed*, I’m lying. I’m faking. It’s all bullshit.
    I know this girl, she draws ‘cuts’ on her arms with markers or gel pens and acts like it’s real, and people believe her

  23. Anxiety is probably one of the worst mental illnesses, Personally i suffer from extreme anxiety, where i cant see myself in crowded places without shaking like a chihuahua. My hands tremble horribly and it causes memory loss, ive even fainted when i ran into a person by accident and got extremely embarassed

  24. Lots of people want to say they have axienty or whatever to be cared for. Actually come to think of it, I think lots of story time channels say they have anxiety or whatever to have subscribers.You have to earn to be respected.

  25. here’s a small conversation with an attention seeking kiddo in my class.

    her: “i have anxiety and depression.”

    me: “aw i’m sorry, when were you diagnosed?”

    “ah no, i haven’t been diagnosed. doctors are one of my biggest fears.”

    “sooooo.. you haven’t been diagnosed with anxiety or depression?”

    “no, but sometimes i get nervous and sad.”

  26. So i’m going to 8th grade rn. So i guess you can say i’m in that time period where idk like what i am or who i am. I’ve had depression and suicidal thoughts for about 2 years ish. (I’m almost 13). So I told 4 of my closest friends that i’ve known for a long LONG time. Three of them have left me. Like they don’t want to talk to me and contact me and anything. (4 guys btw). But there’s one of my best friends who didn’t leave me. Let’s call him T. So T talked to me and he told me not to commit suicide and said he loved me. He made me feel so so SO much better. But I have anxiety as well. So I’ve told him about some days like “T, can we talk. This happened and this and i’m kinda sad rn”. So i tell him about my problems but i feel like i’m annoying him and it’s kinda hard to have a normal conversation with him now. Because I feel like he thinks of me like “That depressed friend”. Or something like that. Sorry for rambling and everything. But I just wanted to get this out. If anyone wants or can talk then please reply to this comment and i’ll give you my email or something and we can talk 👍. Although, I doubt anyone’s gonna read this through

  27. Its sooooo hard to talk to people. It took me 4 years to tell my mom. I hate people like this (Person who wrote the article).

  28. Almost every comment here: "people don't know how hard it is" "It's never for attention" of course someone who does it for attention doesn't know. I've had depression, and I got over it. And I loved attention. Now I don't have depression, and I barely even talk to other people now, and I'm happy as fuck. It's all in the mind. The question is whether you actually wanna get over it or not. I'm just talking about depression and anxiety. Not the serious shit.

  29. I dont think this article is necessarily right however they dont mean sharing articles about anxiety they mean the people who put 'omg my anxiety is too much' all over their story… their is a differnce

  30. Guys you stop it to make a lot of difference between mental and physical illness! Our brain is a part of the body!!!! And no mental illness are NO fake

  31. My brother has down syndrome and he is in the 7th grade, I see him at my middle school lunch everyday and we hug and say hi to each other all the time and one time after hugging him my friend asked who he was I explained that he was my brother and he had autism, and she said, "So is he stupid?" I ended up yelling at her and cussing at her. She never brought up the subject again

  32. I’ve been hiding my mental health from my family. My sister has a few mental issues and is very hard on me. ‘You don’t even know what anxiety is!’ (I throw up when I’m nervous. This is apparently a rare side-effect that usually means anxiety. She apparently doesn’t realize this.) ‘Stop talking about your flaws.’ (Sometimes I just want to talk about what’s wrong with me?? And she’s so rude?? It was just a subtle hint of low self-esteem, I said that I felt my neck was too long. Simple clue. That’s what most people do to hint at it. That way they’re slightly letting it out.)

    In conclusion, my sister is oblivious to my mental health, and if I ever did confess to my sister, I can imagine her saying ‘NO YOU’RE NOT! YOU DON’T HAVE ANXIETY OR LOW SELF ESTEEM!’

    Another reason why I think that is because when I was questioning my gender, I said ‘I might be trans’ and she said ‘don’t be trans’ like honey if I don’t feel comfortable being a female and I want to be a male just support me or leave.

    So basically, I have anxiety and low self-esteem, and I’m non-binary, and I’m hiding it all. I may come out to my parents, but I will NEVER come out to my sister.

    The thing is, she is really nice. It’s just that she’s rude about the whole mental health and lgbtq+ idea. I feel like she wants to be the lgbtq+ and mentally ill and special girl and I have to be the cis straight and totally normal female. I’m not supposed to express myself through gender. I can’t come out in any way.

    So far, my only way to vent is on the Internet. I’m thinking I will confess when I’m older.

  33. so surprising you’ve suffered from depression lady have you considered maybe all humans with brains feel depressed at some point in life

  34. I’ve been told that my eating disorder and mental disorder are made up. I felt like I was going to die because of malnutrition. And people including my best friends wouldn’t believe me. They blame my crying everyday on me being a drama queen that I want to get attention. People like this should just leave

  35. Its hard to be understanding when it comes to mentalism. Are we then shaming people for being prejudice and evil and isnt that also shaming of them?

  36. people who are actually depressed don’t go around saying “oh I wanna cut myself, I wanna die etc” nobody with an mental illness goes around bragging about it.

  37. At work one of the guys on the crew swears that since I don't get professional help or take meds I'm just seeking attention. I got angry after it was brought up again for a few reasons.
    1) We barely know each other.
    2) I'm not your family or friends. Each case is different.
    3) I've dealt with mental problems since I was 8 (I'm 27 now). Within the last 6 months I've finally admitted to myself I need professional help. Now I have to figure out how I'm going to get this help while maintaining a job, recovering financially and legally (license), and I'm a dad.
    4) Yes, I'm suicidal. No I don't need someone to keep an eye on me, this shit isn't constant. Just because I'm alive doesn't mean it's fake. It means that little voice in my head telling me to die hasn't won yet.
    5) YOU CAN'T "MIND OVER MATTER" THIS. That isn't how this works!

  38. Psychologists told me many times that I should open up to people, and tell them how i feel and how it feels like, cause ppl may not know and may help u, then THIS GENIOUSES get an access to the internet and write those stupid articles/videos and make people Close up in themselves again. THANK YOU. By the way I love this video, you really know how it feels like and I agree with everything you said. Subscribed.

  39. Sorry if im too late for this but, most of the time my mother often tells me that im faking my illness because sometimes im smiling or laughing at some stuff but the real thing is that people force me to smile and be happy and my mom forces me to be sad and depressed all the time so its a problem for me because i cant decide by being happy or sad so i have to act when im at home and when im at school, its such a torture for me right now and i trully agree with your video…

  40. I rarely talk about my mental illness because of the stigma surrounding it, the last thing I want is for my identity to be defined by my illness.

  41. I'm absolutely horrified by that article… Talk about stigma! You did a great job at addressing these 10 foolish rants.🤸👏

  42. guys! the article was taken down! it was actually taken down right around the time this video was published. i’m so happy that claudia drew attention to this and it was dealt with.

  43. Sorry, but some really do use mental health for attention. Depression is a big one used. The truth if difference from your opinion doesn't make it " ignorant".

  44. So now you say not posting your mental health for the world to see means you man not be taken seriously as to having a mental illness?" Smh

  45. Made up for attention.. Yeah, that's why I keep it to myself and tell only the people who are extremely close to me.

  46. People don't just decide to fake depression and anxiety, that's not how it works. Having a mental illness is a constant war, and it's incredibly exhausting. Anxiety isn't, "cute and quirky, " and depression isn't "edgy." People die from mental illnesses every minute of every day.

  47. I hate it when people use anxiety as being "cool and edgy" when I actually suffer from it and its horrible. People tell also always tell me "I'm a little bit OCD" …….. OCD is NOT like that. Having OCD built up on anxiety is a terrible pain. For a good few years, I was struggling on my own until a couple of months I got the most helpful thing in my life… My service dog, Harlow. I have no idea how I managed without her. She is my everything, it also takes a long time to get a service dog for a mental illness in the UK. I hate going into school everyday and people saying " can I pet your dog" and " why can't I pet your dog?". Its so difficult because its the exact same people everyday and knwo why they can't pet her.

  48. I have anxiety and it all really started because of presenting and I still can't do it. But people always say is that it but I just don't tell them what else I'm going through because when I do they just make fun of me. The only thing that gets me through it now is my service dog, Harlow. I would be a mess without her. I also have OCD and people no one every bothers to ask me how much pain it causes me.

  49. I thought that this would cover toxic traits of people acting certain ways to seem worse off or giving people with illness for attention.

    To be fair, people that manipulate for attention are ill in some manner or another. There are people with any number of disorders that do things for attention, and there are people who have disorders who don't do this.

    So I'm glad that you picked apart some of this article, even if I don't agree with every single little thing. People without any awareness of anything shouldn't write "helpful" articles.

  50. I take lithium, Klonopin, and Adderall…. definitely not faking lmao. But I agree with this. I have Bipolar 2 and Borderline Personality Disorder, along with ADD. And I share my manic side and I’m very open on social media about it (I don’t overdue it bc I don’t want people to feel bad for me bc I’m not a victim).. and I’ve had many people message me who have BPD/ have loved one who has it, and they always thank me. It surprises me every time. Thankfully no one ever questions me (probably bc it’s been quite apparent and/or are scared of me) lol.

    To the unempathetic people: maybe instead of questioning peoples feelings, try reaching out to them and support and encourage them to seek help, and actually check up on them.
    I lost so many friends, including my childhood best friend, bc my mental illness wasn’t convenient for them. Funny bc I was always there for each of them through everything… maybe I’m just too much for them.
    But IDGAF because I’ve learned to get help and accept myself as I am 🙃

  51. A friend of mine asked me why I don't hang out with him as much, and I finally told him that it's because I panic a lot and have these horrible bouts of fear that make me feel sick, and he said some shit like "No, you're always fine when I see you" and "if you're so scared of people how come you can go outside" as if social anxiety means I lock myself away in a fucking tower or can't speak to anyone. I told him about my health anxiety too that started after both of my parents got really sick and I tried to tell him what it is, and he just said, point blank, "I think you're lying." I will never talk about it again to anyone since it's almost always the same response. I don't have help. I can't see a professional because I don't have money or insurance, I have nobody to talk to about it because everyone assumes I'm lying. Even my own fiance thought that in the beginning. He said some dumb shit too, like because he hasn't gone through it it must not exist. Things that are just so dumb, you'd assume that nobody can possibly still think those things. But they fucking do.
    So, yeah I kind of dropped the friend after that. He thinks I am making shit up so I don't have to see him as much. If that were the case, I would have just told him to get lost and fuck off instead of going through all that embarrassing bullshit just to open up and get told I'm lying.

  52. About the number 9. I was diagnosed with schizophrenia four years ago and for a long while I'd been feeling like I don't really want to cure. I blamed myself for thinking so, I thought of myself as of a poseur, but that's the point: you get used to being ill, and I personally was afraid of the unknown (by the unknown I mean being "healthy"). When you're ill, you know your symptoms, you know how to live with them. Although you might feel terrible, you find it better than attempting to cure and getting disappointed afterwards. For example, I felt extremely lonely without voices in my head, though some of them were "bad" and made me do horrible things. So not "trying enough" is not actually a sign of faking. It's a sign of being a human.

  53. i was afraid to watch this video because i though i was faking it, in 6th grade i would always tell people "my god your gonna make me depressed" or "I'm so depressed omg" and shit like that and i just did it for attention but as i got older it became more serious i knew it was wrong to fake depression but that seemed to be the only way anyone would notice, but even when i said "oh my god i hate my life" my mom still doesn't care about me she still doesn't realize that the reason i am this way is because of her and her stupid schizophrenia, but i guess since I'm sharing my story i must be faking because depressed people don't share there stories to get the help they never get in real life, so ya sure call me a fucking coward but you don't have to tell me twice because i already know that

  54. Yes i am 13 years old, yes i love billie eilish, and i am pretty sure i have depression though i haven't talked to a doctor because no one wants to support me even my parents. But that doesn't mean that I'm lying.
    My father is toxic and makes me feel horrible all the time. I dont feel safe at home I'm not free to do anything. Im not allowed to hang out with friends, im not allowed to even follow my dreams and hobbies. My hobby is to draw stuff, and whenever i do it on a notebook my parents always say "stop wasting good paper" or "you should focus on your studies instead of this" or "you can do it once you're done with your studies" and due to these comments i have lost interest in my hobbies. I dont have any interest in food anymore even though i hve been skinny since i was little i have lately just started eating way less. About an year ago I started having suicidal thoughts, most people have them because of bullying at school but i got them because of my own family. I started having bad grades and getting scolded by my parents all the time. I thought i could do better but they just kept dropping. I can not do my homework at all like AT ALL. i started cutting a year ago and 2 months ago my parents found out. they said i should be strong like they did as they faced so many problems, and that i should grow up amd not be a crybaby. Now whenever i cry they say im a crybaby and it makes me feel so bad. But I feel like it's my fault they're always telling me that parents are always right and that i should listen to everything they say but i dont listen to anything which makes me feel spoilt cause they've done so much for me. There's just so much going on in my life I can't handle it anymore. I stopped cutting because im afraid of my parents's comments. I cant do this anymore. I want to die but im scared to suicide and i also think my life can get better. I just dont know what to do anymore. Those teen girls faking depression make me so angry because I can't share my feelings with anyone thinking im lying just to be cool. Depression isn't cool.
    If you believe me please try to help me because i cant find any help, but if you dont and think im just trying to be cool then that's fine too.
    Thank you for listening.

  55. Why is naieviety not not a mental disorder?
    Answer, because the real "treatment" of such would expose the mental "health" professional as a charlitan and plus enlighten the "patient" to further truths.
    In factual truth, the opposite of "naiviety" is considered as a mental "illness"…conveyed professionally via in various confusios terms.
    Thank god for the American Rifle Association.
    A good psychiatrist ("good" or "bad" irrelevant) is a psychiatrist in the cross hairs.
    Psychiatrists speak "kiss my ass" also does the American Rifle Association.
    What does the psychiatrist do as a first offense against the "patient"…takes away the Right to bear Arms.
    If i had a copy of the Holy Bible , i'd use its pages as toilet paper to wipe mt ass with….is that the Truth?
    Slimes cohert with psychologists and/or psychiatrists. The epithamy of slime is the psychiatric nurse.

  56. If you are not diagnosed and being treated or not treated and you are self diagnosing yourself you are a piece of shit.

  57. I was going through a hard time battling with an ED and since I’ve started to get some attention from teachers and I started to go to seek help one of my friends has started to get very interested in personal things about my ED which I don’t like talking about, she started to go on diets and saying things like “I’m going to go and starve myself” in front of me she’s never been like this before I’ve started to get help, I don’t know if she’s faking it or genuinely needs help, but it’s making me feel worse when she starts talking about weight and being “fat” because it makes me want to get back to my old habits, and I don’t know what to do please help. Thank you x

  58. So many people claim to have mental illness but have never been diagnosed. The article is obviously about people that fake serious problems. It only hurts people who actually have real problems.

  59. Jesus Christ. Ok, I’m pansexual, going to therapy for social anxiety, and am self-diagnosed with depression. First of all, I’m not bi because I like more that two genders. I don’t know how many there are, and I don’t acknowledge SJW made up genders, but I acknowledge actual LGBT genders under my attraction. Second, if someone was making up a mental illness, they would know. Obviously.

  60. 3 years late but it depends on the age. 16 and up is fine with me but if your in 7TH GRADE and have depression than you wouldn’t last a second in high school or faking it for attention (in my middle school days you wouldn’t even know how much people did this.)

  61. I got scared that I was making it my identity. Then I realized that just because I make jokes about it and say things my fellow depressed bffs that maybe they can relate to, it doesn't mean that I'm faking it. I never say "hi I'm Abby. I'm depressed how about you?" I say "I'm Abby. I do art and I love memes and Reddit." Maybe they will see I make jokes about my anxiety and depression and suicidal thoughts. That's really just my coping mechanism tbh. I am getting help and have good friends who understand what I go through and two amazing parents who are slowly but surely starting to understand my mental illnesses. I do have good and bad days. I am not… I repeat I AM NOT faking it. My older brother did tell me that people like me don't get depressed but I know that he's just being ignorant.

  62. I bet you've also had the classic "But you can't have a mental illness, you're beautiful " line. Alongside rich, successful & a whole host of others that sufferers get thrown at them! Any form of mental illness suck, especially if it goes alongside another illness too. Depression is a "Deep Recession" of the brain's cognitive functioning. It's certainly not something that's made up for attention by the sufferer. Take care & keep fighting 👍 ☺

  63. the title of the stupid article made me so angry already. if u have depression, u already think ur making it up and you're lazy and you want sympathy from people and u can't do things like everyone else can cos ur an attention seeker and a wimp. fuck whoever wrote this thing and thank u to claudia for bringing awareness to why this type of thing is wrong

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