DO NOT say “you’re welcome”! Respond to “thank you” PROPERLY!

DO NOT say “you’re welcome”! Respond to “thank you” PROPERLY!


(upbeat music) – Hello, everyone, and welcome
back to English With Lucy. Today, I am going to be teaching you all of the ways that you
can respond to thank you. Now you’re welcome or you are welcome is a perfectly valid way
to respond to a thank you. But I think it’s a little bit overused, especially by learners of English. It’s completely natural. You find one way you like to say things and then you say it again,
and again, and again. The purpose of this video is
to expand your vocabulary bank, so that you have many more
options when somebody thanks you. So this video is going to be perfect for improving your vocabulary. But if you want to improve your listening and your pronunciation even further, than I highly recommend
listening to audio books. It’s something I mention
in a lot of my videos, but I mention it a lot
because I know it works. I advise you to take a
book that you already have, a book that you’ve maybe already read and download the audio version and listen to it whilst you are reading. Just reading alone will not
help you with your pronunciation because English is not
a phonetic language. If you are hearing the
word as you read it, your brain will make the connection, and next time you see that word, you will know how to pronounce it. And next time you hear that word, you will know how it’s spelt. You can get a free audiobook,
that’s a 30 day free trial of audible by clicking on the
link in the description box. I’ve got loads of recommendations
for great audio books, and also the physical book
counterpart on Amazon. I really encourage you
to try out this method because it could transform
your pronunciation, your spelling, your vocabulary
and you’re listening. Right, let’s get started with the lesson. Let’s begin with informal
or casual phrases that you can use with
your friends and family. The first one is, you’re welcome. But let’s expand on that a little bit. If you really want to emphasise that their thanks has been
taken into consideration, you can say, you’re very welcome. This is quite a British one, I think, for example, thank you so much for packing my shopping for me. Oh, you’re very welcome. Number two, this one is
slightly more American. It’s, no problem, no problem. Bear in mind that the older generation seem to dislike this one. So keep that in your head if a slightly older
person is thanking you. An example, thanks for the help today. No problem, I enjoyed helping you. Number three, the third
way to respond to thank you is, thank you. (laughs) But this one is all about the emphasis. If somebody thanks you but you think that they should be thanked,
you can say, no, thank you. Or just, thank you. For example, thanks for
accepting the invitation. Thank you. I’m emphasising that really,
I should be thanking them because they invited me somewhere. Number four, this one is much more formal. If we say it in its entire form
it’s, the pleasure is mine. The pleasure is mine. You can also shorten it
to make it less formal by saying, my pleasure,
or simply, pleasure, that’s very casual. For example, thanks for
taking the parcel in for me. Pleasure. That’s a short way of
saying it was my pleasure, or the pleasure is mine, or was mine. Number five is a very friendly one. Only use this with people you know well. It’s, I know you’d do the same for me. For example, I’d like to thank you for looking after my cat so well. The response, I know
you’d do the same for me. I know you’d look after my
cat, so I looked after yours. Even Stevens. Number six is much more casual. And it’s slightly less heartfelt. You might say this if
you don’t really care, or if somebody is thanking
you for doing something that you might not have wanted to do. But depending on the intonation
and the tone of voice, it can also be quite warm. It’s, that’s all right. So I could say, thank
you for picking me up from the station. I could say either, that’s all right. Or, that’s all right. My tone of voice is telling you everything you need to know there. Number seven is a very casual one. It’s, no worries, no worries. In use, thanks for letting me know that my car alarm was going off. No worries, I thought I’d better tell you. The next one is very British. It’s quite self-deprecating. It’s, don’t mention it. For example, thank you so
much for bringing the desert. Oh, don’t mention it. It was a lot of effort to
bring dessert probably. And they probably do
want you to mention it, but we just say, don’t mention it because, oh, it was nothing. Number nine is very heartfelt. It is, it was the least I could do. For example, thank you for
visiting me in hospital. Oh, it was the least I could do. Again, very British,
very self-deprecating. Number 10 is quite casual. It’s, anytime. Thank you for stopping by, oh, anytime. It’s quite a generous
response, I like this one. Number 11 is a really American one. I hardly ever hear it used in the UK. But I thought I should teach it to you because British English
is not the only English, it’s good to know about all of
the different slang phrases. And yes, this is a very
casual one, it is, sure. A one word answer to say you’re welcome. Thank you for thinking of me, sure. It often goes hand in
hand with no problem. Sure, no problem. Number 12 is, oh, it was nothing. Again, another self-deprecating one. It’s a way of saying that
what they are thanking you for was no extra effort. Thank you for picking
my kids up from school. Oh, it was nothing, my kids
already needed picking up. No extra effort here. Now I want to talk to you about four more formal ways of
responding to thank you. And these are more likely to
be used in business situations, or maybe in a shop or restaurant. Number one is very British,
it’s quite old fashioned, and it is, much obliged. The full formal way of saying it is, I’m very much obliged to you. For example, thank you so much doctor, I’m very much obliged to you. This is shortened down to, I
actually experienced this one in use the other day at a shoe shop. I said, thank you so much after paying and he said, “Much obliged.” And I thought, oh, I haven’t
heard that phrase in a while, I’m gonna put it in a video. The guy had an amazing
Cockney accent as well, he was really nice, really helpful. Great shoes, they had a gel bottom. Number two is a more formal
way of saying you’re welcome it is, you’re most welcome. Now, this does sound very posh. So I wouldn’t use it willy-nilly, willy-nilly means without
careful thought, or planning. I wouldn’t use it willy-nilly. But if you’re in a formal situation, for example, I thanked my solicitor on the phone the other day
for sending me some forms. And she replied with, you’re most welcome because she’s quite a formal person, and it was a formal legal situation. Number three is, we
appreciate your business or we appreciate your custom. Custom if you’re talking to a customer and business if you’re
talking to a business client. For example, thank you for
sending the sample so promptly. We appreciate your business. And the last one,
definitely a business one, it’s, I’m happy to help. For example, thank you for
helping me carry the coffees to the office. Oh, I’m happy to help. Right, that’s it for today’s lesson. I hope you enjoyed it and I
hope you learned something. Again, really consider starting
to listen to audiobooks, you can claim your free audio book by clicking on the link
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soon for another lesson. Muah! (upbeat music)

100 Replies to “DO NOT say “you’re welcome”! Respond to “thank you” PROPERLY!”

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  3. You're very nice, but you apparently don't know what "Self-Deprecation" means..Self- Deprecation means to disparage, or poke fun at one's self…You are using it in a way to describe someone who is explaining that they expended very little effort for which the "Thank You" was warranted…That's not Self-Deprecation…In fact, it is quite the opposite, if you think about it.."No Problem! (that says, "I'm so good it took no effort at all!")"…I don't see any self deprecation there, do you?

  4. Your title is pure clickbait. It states ' respond properly' which implies that 'you are welcome' is incorrect. Then you proceed to say it is overused and that you want us to expand our vocab bank… you are the one who needs to use her English properly…

  5. "Very British"? Ummm, we use all these in the States, other than "I'm very much obliged to you." And I would never say, "Sure" and rarely "No problem." Both annoying to me.

  6. No problem and No worries is far more overused that you’re welcome. No problem/no worries means you’re welcome, thank you, here you go, yup, ok and is often given with zero sincerity .You’re welcome is proper English response.

  7. Why is this innthe rec list?? GOOD GRIEF…YOU ARE WELCOME IS PERFECT….YOU DONT NEED TO TRY & CHANGE IT TO SOME OTHER STUPID RESPONSE….like: no problem……EVER HEAR THE SAYING: IF IT'S NOT BROKEN, LEAVE IT ALONE???!!! THERE ARE SO MANY BIGGER ISSUES GOING ON WE DONT NEED TO HEAR SOME STUPID CHANGE TO A PERFECT RESPONSE

  8. At 4:30…. "alright". There is no such word as "alright". The correct word, and spelling, is all right.. two words. All right and already… there is no "alright".

  9. Yes, I am one who grinds my teeth when a clerk or wait staff says "no problem" in response to my thanks. Why should it be a problem when it's their JOB to do whatever they just did. If they hadn't done it, THAT would have been a problem.

  10. Thank You for the video lesson. I'm very pleased to come across you. I realize the need to express myself better and you were very helpful. I subscribed.

  11. Lucy: “Respond to ‘thank you’ properly.”
    Also Lucy: “You’re welcome is a perfectly valid way to respond to thank you.”

    Perfectly valid.

    🤦‍♂️

  12. The title is misleading; it’s perfectly fine to say ‘you’re welcome’ (as she says in the beginning of the video). It’s just that you should use other options as well.

  13. Ok exactly you’re from England you lost the war ima do what I do best and ignore English idiots and all I got to say is

    DONT TREAD ON ME ❗️

  14. Your opinions just prove the adage that; “England and America are two countries separated by the same language!”
    No worries, happy that I could help..

  15. Hmmm, I didn't know there was another way. Saying g the same thing over and over is boring.

  16. I was hoping you weren't going to say 'no worries'. I call fowl on that. Its overused by people in the service industry and it's tacky as hell!

  17. When you get rid of Brexit you can give lessons agein,same idea with Americans when we get rid of trump, borris is a huge point of embarrassment as well

  18. Contrary to the title, I'm glad you didn't recommend to not say "you're welcome," which is of course always correct regardless of circumstance. But nothing wrong with changing things up a bit under different circumstances. There were none I'd not heard of and have used most. The one that I believe is overused — often inappropriately — is to say "thank you" back. I thought "no worries" was Australian (down under), and "much obliged" was more an alternative way of saying "thank you" (rather than "you're welcome") in the American West (cowboys).

  19. "No problem" is stoopid. Especially from a waitress…uh it's you're job, dang right it's NO PROBLEM! The speaker just DOES NOT WANT TO REALLY THANK YOU! Same with "no worries"

  20. I appreciate this video though I don't agree with a few of the suggestions. For example, saying "pleasure", tossing it off like that — I think it's a bit dismissive. However my gripe, here in North America is that NOBODY says You are welcome these days. Listen to the radio & TV interviews — the host ends with "Thank you" and the guest responds "Thank you" emphasis on you or not. Now we all know that the guest may have been glad to get his message out , time on the air. But most of the time, "You are welcome" would be a very nice response. I grit my teeth and wait for it. Very very occasionally a guest will respond with that nice, "You are welcome." I like "the pleasure was mine" for example. But "pleasure"? NO. "No problem"? NO — even though it's popped out of my mouth at times!

  21. Used to drive me nuts in America when people responded with "m-hmm", "uh-huh", or "sure!" whenever I said "Thank you". I thought it was really rude, sort of shrugging off my thanks, until I realized that Americans do that to each other all the time and it's not rude at all. Took some getting used to though!

  22. On Steve Bucemi's YouTube show there was a whole episode of how everyone avoided saying "you're welcome" and instead said things like "no problrm." "Any time" "no big deal". Saying "you're welcome" is ok and not difficult.

  23. American English isn't 'slang English'. First of all non-anglophones are much more likely to encounter American audio media and Americans themselves. Secondly America is five times more populous than the UK and most of those fifths are more productive economically and culturally than the UK. Also, The UK is not the country with the first or second most English speakers, but the sixth. Let's also not forget that Canada, Australia, Ireland, and Jamaica all speak English primarily.

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