100 Replies to “How Can You Help Someone With A Mental Illness? | Kati Morton”

  1. How do you tell someone "I'm here for you" when they are in a self destructive lifestyle. I have a parent that is in an abusive relationship that refuses to leave.

  2. I had depression for years. One particular rough day, a newly hired worker asked if I'd like to have coffee with her. I wanted to be welcoming so I agreed though I didn't feel like it. When it was just the two of us in the break room, she said:" you look sad, do you want to talk about it?". I broke down in tears, it was the first time I allowed myself to cry over it. By seeing me and being a friend, I found the strength to go into therapy and psychiatrist, and finally get the help I needed. That was 3 years ago, and I'm so grateful for that cup of coffee.

  3. I was almost 5150'd a few months ago but due to the fact I didn't wanna kill myself or wish I was dead they decided an Intensive Outpatient Program would be more helpful.

  4. Today you gained a new follower!
    And just like Eugenia!❤ And Shane!❤
    You're also a beautiful person!❤

  5. May I add…ask the person how you may help especially if you view that person as being strong. I’m viewed as a strong person, so it’s hard for people to know what to do and they’ll express it's because I'm so strong they feel helpless since I usually take care of things myself. And I am strong so I understand. I’m willing to help my friends help me. I'm sure your loved ones will help you help them. Good luck everyone! 😘

  6. hey kati. can you do a video on dealing with a friend who is irritable and lashes out on you because of their mental illness?

  7. I just had a friend the other day who's mind runs wild (panic) and we had a storm roll through, and had a LOUD crack of thunder. She raced down the stairs with a panic attack, and I sat with her for 4 hours just letting her vent, and reassuring her she would be ok, and even if the power goes out, that I would help her put batteries into her flashlights and such. She had run out of meds because she didn't schedule her next appointment before her last refill ran out, so I was getting her to do deep breathing, picture a safe, happy place, kept reminding her that the thoughts she had in her head weren't true, and just to make sure she doesn't listen or hold onto the irrational scenarios she had when the thunder hit. She thanked me greatly for my help, and I was glad there was a few of us down in the community room to help her out 🙂 Now she had her appointment, has her meds, I asked her if she made an appointment with her dr BEFORE she runs out next time, she made sure she did, so that was another thing we talked about was making SURE she made the appointments within the time frame she needed to make sure she didn't run out of her medications for her anxiety. I even gave her a hug and told her she would be OK 🙂

  8. How would you be a good friend to someone who is choosing to enable their mental illness? My friend confessed to me that she is struggling with substance abuse because of her depression, but whenever I try to make plans to check in with her she cancels- usually by not texting back or showing up. I will hear from friends of friends she blacked out a bar, or left gatherings to get blacked out. I don't know what to help with first the drinking or the depression?

  9. I completely agree with you and I believe you should be there for your friend and if they are down one day, ask them, and if they don't want to talk don't squeeze it out of them, just be their shoulder to cry on, or the one they can call or text.whenever

  10. I think you cannot talk about experiences either with people
    The way you experience things is always different . Just basic support is great and can help I would think?

  11. My dad had severe bipolar disorder which was not diagnosed correctly and treated with lithium until he was 72 in 1982. Had he not been institutionalized during his angry manic episodes I am absolutely positive he would have killed his family. He did kill my aunt’s 11 dogs one night and dumped their bodies in a river. Now my brother has severe bipolar. Lithium does not work and depakote just scratches the surface. He is more of a danger to himself than to others. At 76 he takes risks, driving carelessly, climbing tall ladders with chainsaw in hand, and trying to help out with meth addicts who physically attack and steal from him. In mania he squanders thousands of dollars. In depression he is totally lifeless and bedridden, lying in bed simply wanting to die. This time he has lost about 60 pounds and hasn’t the will to even comb his hair before doctor appointments, much less shave or bathe. My brother’s are angry at him because he felt like he had been miraculously healed last time he snapped suddenly out of depression and quit taking meds as an act of “faith.” They have shunned him for two years now. His only surviving child has also shunned him. In mania he nearly destroyed her marriage and endangered them by welcoming dangerous addicts to wander freely through the home. Many things were lost, given away and destroyed.
    I take care of my brother when he is depressed. Right now he lives with me. Listening to you, I guess I am doing all the right things for him and that is a comfort to me to have the support of knowing that. I am afraid he would die without this help and I am afraid, at this point, he might anyway, because he is 76 and his health is failing.

  12. Kati you're so right. I like it when others are around, but not actively trying to help me. If I can have the options & feel in control of my decisions, this gives me strength & having people offer the options is like a guiding light.

  13. A lot of people think that if they say "everyone has problems, you need to change as i did, i had worse problems or if i were you i would do this and that etc" they help and when you say "you are doing more harm to me than good by saying that" they say you are blessed that they give you advice but you don't appreciate. Some people just don't want to deal with someone else's emotions and they don't want to learn how to help you. They think they are good enough and know everything but you don't.

  14. It's very difficult for someone to understand exactly how you feel if they've never been through the same thing but it means so much when someone is actually willing to listen. Getting something of your chest normalises it, you begin to realise that you're feelings are validated. People can spend so much time inside they're own minds that they forget to speak about how they're feeling. Just listening to someone will mean a lot. x

  15. I just want to point out that sending a text or email is NOT the same as making a phone call (and persisting until you get through). And that's not nearly as good as actually seeing someone in person. When nobody ever calls, eventually the little things stop counting, and it gets harder and harder to believe anyone cares at all. "I'm busy," is a terrible excuse. 🙁

  16. I made an incredible and helpful friend and mentor in the midst of a huge breakdown. She was overwhelmed and knew I was really struggling but didn’t know what to say or how to help. But she was willing to give me a ride to therapy- a year and a half later… she still helps me get to therapy but it is so much more than that. I know I have someone in my corner, someone who can give advice and just be there! It changed my life all because she was willing to give me a ride!

  17. Is this a mental issue? – when someone is scared of the next day, and crys at night every single night…

  18. iv strugeled with suicidel thoughts self harm depresstion and anxiaty for as long as i can remeber and im still dealling with it but what really helped me was my dad being a person i could run to and someone who just let me be myself he gave me a safe space

  19. I always wanted to help everyone , specially people with mental illness , cz I can feel their hardships . They're not able to express their problems , because deep inside they're thinking that no one can understand their issues . mental health awareness is not growing everywhere . That's why we need more awareness more support . When we will support and help each other then the world will be a better place to live in 🌎💖
    dear Kati , thank you for this informative video . I've learnt a lot through your videos . 🌸

  20. Be a good friend, educate yourself, assist in anyway you can. How I wish that some supernatural would whisper these to my friends.

    I have dysthymia, asking help from your friends is a gamble because if they didn't help you, your depression will get worse, so I stopped asking for help.

    I don't have time for psychotherapy, and I don't want medication because my depression is not major, and I believe doing self CBT will help myself.

    Hi Kati, I can't help but notice how high your left eye is compared to the left, and that makes me notice how beautiful your eyes are. 😁😊

  21. its good to lend out a hand every now and then but set boundaries the person cannot cross. even if its family. we are not professionals

  22. How do you help someone if they won't speak to you or anybody about what's going on no matter what?

  23. I have PTSD from a really bad car wreck, and with my internship this summer I ended up having a 45-50 minute commute every day, which made me really anxious. My best friend gets off of work around the same time as me every day and she talks to me my whole commute home. This really simple act of just talking to me while I’m driving has helped tremendously, and it’s a great way to “spend time together” when we have jobs in different cities this summer.

  24. This video actually made me quite sad … even after a serious suicide attempt, I had to walk back home on my own. No one ever offers me help; not even to cook for me or just come with me to the doctor's office. Everyone around me knows I am sick, chronically physically and mentally sick, yet I am all alone. For me illness means utter loneliness and the feeling of being on your own.

  25. My parents have been so supportive through the past 2 year with my struggles with really bad anxiety/agoraphobia/emtephobia. They have done what they can when I have asked for help and they have not been angry when I haven't been able to do something. They have been frustrated but haven't made me feel like it is my fault that I am like this. They have stood by my side and given me so much love, support, and encouragement and I honestly cannot thank them enough. Even when it all started and I was so angry and upset because I didn't know why I was feeling the way I was, they never blamed me or forced me to do stuff. They talked to me and took me to the doctors and have paid for the many rounds of therapy. When I have wanted to do something, they have done it with me and if I have found something difficult, they will either try to make the situation more manageable or taken me away from the situation. I know there is nothing that I can say or do that will express my sincerest gratitude to them but I say thank you every day and tell them how much I love and appreciate them. I don't know how I would be today without their love and support through this rough time. I know that I am extremely lucky to have such amazing parents as I know that not everyone is a lucky as I am so I am trying not to take them for granted. So yeah…just having someone there to talk/vent to and for them to be able to support me in any way they can would help me. 🙂 x

  26. Comedy. I'm trying to get some supplies but they will not fit. The women will not even discuss spanking their boyfriend. There are a lot of criminals. The ladies are intimidated, and do not have the right stick or sex lock. How can we get a Pepsi? (them)

  27. What I have experienced is the person in full denial or worse knowing but no longer willing to care or even try….

  28. The closing comment really hits home for me. I never stopped trying but was at a point of breakdown. This began at separation from my EX NBPD out of control spouse. But my neighbour became my mental health support and much more for as long as I needed that level of support.

    I deal with severe medical or physical disability but my limit was exceeded with a plurality of difficult mental health symptoms starting with the C-PTSD AND ﹰ
    what that brings on in the acute spectrom. I was falling apart big time but she stood beside me during the worse of it.

    That is untill we agreed time to wean off onto my own feet. Still there to talk but I told her I know she saved my sanity, even my life, I will always owe her for what she was willing to freely give of herself….

  29. Can you talk about how to manage relationship with someone suffering from mental illness? How to make it work or how to breakup when things aren't right .. the Do's and Don't with them because it feel like you are walking over egg shells please guide 🙂

  30. Being mentally ill has ruined one of my friendships. my friend says I’m too dramatic and she’s too logical. I don’t know where my friendship stands but it’s made me feel so lonely and worthless. I hate being mentally ill and have people, even very close people, think I like drama or being a victim. I’m not a victim I’m just ill and I hate it. No matter how much I try to be normal it doesn’t work and I end up fucking up

  31. What do we do when the person continuously refuses help (but doesn’t seem harmful other then verbally abusive)?
    I have a family member that I think would greatly benefit from seeing a therapist. I’ve mentioned it a few times over the last few years but she has yet to seek help.

    Despite everyone around her putting into practice all of your advice in this video (checking in as a friend, educating ourselves etc) Her depression & paranoia are getting worse and she is started to slowly lose all her friends and family because of how bad she is treating all of us.
    Any advice for gently getting someone treatment who is scared to seek it out themselves?

  32. So when my boyfriend first got out of the hospital we sat down and made lists. Lists of what we would like to do (play boardgames, cook food, that kind of stuff). We made lists of what he would like to do if he was in a dark place (exercise, go for walks etc.). We also made a schedule for when to shower, when to clean, all that stuff. It really helped us in the beginning. We still do schedules, but not as detailed, just if we have some appointments or there's something we really want to do

  33. I love this video.
    I think you already know who my support team is. Without them…you know where I would be.
    I really hope that everyone has at least one person in their corner for them.
    How Kati is describing this is super accurate, you want to try and stay positive and out of hospitaliazation if you can. 💖💖💖

  34. Amazing job on building such a helpful and positive community!! I think it's about really checking in with the person like you said- how are YOU? Not how are your circumstances…

  35. My experience with myself and other people has been to also empower those people and let them know it's possible to lead a happy healthy life and that there are many tools available for them to get better or at least manage their condition.

  36. Hey this is kinda unrelated to the video, but (TW) could you do a video about the romantification of mental health and how in the current "teen world" mental health is joked upon. Because people in my school will joke about killing themselves saying things like they are going to jump off a cliff all the time when they are not suicidal. I feel like this just makes people who actually need help, want to retreate from getting help because they think they won't be taken seriously. At this point we don't know who is joking and who is not and I see this as a big problem that no one is really addressing. As a personal dealing with mental health issues, I find it very hard to listen to all the time because it's not a joke (while I do understand some people joke as a coping mechanism). It makes me feel like my problems aren't real and don't really matter. Anyway sorry that was kinda a mini rant. Thankyou for everything that you do here on YouTube. It has people so many people, including myself ❤️

  37. Another point: If a mentally ill person relapses, don't make them feel guilty (chances are, they already feel immense guilt even without you telling them off), instead try to help and support them!

  38. kati, can you PLEASE do a video on symptoms of ADHD in teens/if you think you might have it ?? my sister is convinced i have it and i agree w her. when you do videos like those, they are always really helpful and you only have ADHD videos for adults.

  39. How about helping someone who’s struggling mentally, when you also are too?

    This is someone we are really close to and they always help you, but you feel helpless when it’s the other way around :/
    I may be slightly more of a “special case”, because I struggle to read situations/emotions and how to act in the moment.

  40. Could you make a video on hypochondria since it doesnt seem like you have done one? It would be very interesting

  41. I want to die, I want to call suicide hotline but I don't want cops called. I don't want to do this anymore 😭.

  42. Thank you Kati! This is very timely for me. I have been praying and seeking how i can help others who struggle with Depression Autism, ADD/HD, etc. Not as a medium to push my faith, but to just help others who struggle.

  43. It would have been more helpful if you made this video years ago. I made the mistake of trying to broach the subject of eating disorders with someone I realized had one after reading an article on an eating disorder website that recommended bringing up the issue because the person would be 'thankful'. That was a load of bunk. She dropped hints for over a year and I didn't put the clues together until after a year into the friendship. Even after I realized what was going on I didn't bring it up but I researched on what to avoid saying to reduce triggering her in anyway. After I followed the article's advice she stopped talking to me almost completely. Things went sideways from there pretty quickly. I learned to never bring up sensitive subjects no what you read or hear if the person doesn't broach the issue directly no matter how many symptoms they may tell you about. Even if it seems like they are trying to tell you they have an issue. All you can do I guess is as you suggest, just try to be supportive and that's it. Oh well.

    On a less depressing note I just learned today why Van Halen titled one of their albums 5150. I had no clue they were probably referring to the 5150 process you spoke of. Also, I like the jazz music you have at the end of the clip.

  44. Can we talk about how to get over trust issues? Future relationships shouldn’t have to pay for your past. But idk how to get there.

  45. Can you do a video about lack of motivation? Or when you’re in denial about having something wrong?
    I deep down know I need help but I’m struggling so hard right now. I don’t even have the energy or motivation to get out of bed.

  46. Can you do a video on how to assist your significant other through depression and mental illness? And how to not to let it effect your relationship

  47. My brother was 5150 in Alabama after he went be bezerk and destroyed my mom's house. Later he ended telling a therapist the medication he was on was making him suicidal and they traspoted him to hospital .. A few months later he hanged himself. The system failed big time in his case ,, however after his death it came out his wife at the time was a heroine addict who got him on it.. Big mess!! Something has to change.

  48. My school/parents forced me to get therapy, and I just wasn’t ready. The result was me not even doing one thing my therapist said. Take note.

  49. For me the best support a friend could give me is just coming over and sitting with me. Sometimes just not being alone is all I need.

  50. i used to see a psychiatrist but eventually stopped going after lying my way out of it. i regret doing that and i want to go back and possibly try therapy instead of medication but i dont know how to tell my mom this.

  51. Hi Kati! Would you be able to do a video on trust issues? I've watched your videos on BPD, but can you have trust issues without being borderline? Sorry if that's a dumb question 😅

  52. Hey, I'd like to send you a private message, but it doesn't look like it's an option on YouTube for your channel. Do you not accept private messages anymore?

  53. Hey Kati!:) In one of your earlier videos about self harm you recommended the book cutting by Steven Levenkron and I just came around to reading it:) What I find really interesting is that he sees self harm as a disorder and not just as a symptom like the DSM and the ICD. So I was wondering if you had any thoughts about this and if you could maybe make a video on this at one point?:) Wish you a lovely day, Laura

  54. Hi Kati, firstly I want to say that your videos are incredible & so helpful! They’ve been great for my own personal struggles, I wish that there were more therapists like you in the uk !! Anyways, I wanted to ask a question – I’ve been babysitting these 2 kids, age 7 and 10, whose parents are divorced. Their mum is seeing someone new, and he’s around quite a lot. They’re not very wealthy, and the mother is always working, tired, stressed, irritable etc. It’s clear that this all affects the kids quite a bit, and I’m not sure whether I’m seeing any warning signs? The 7 year old boy is definitely frustrated, doesn’t know how to control his anger and acts out a lot. The 10 year old girl is more closed up and I think she holds everything in. But I’ve really clicked with them and now they trust me, and they’ve opened up to me about how they feel about their home life, family, friends and school. I’m a 19 year old student and don’t really know what to do – the nhs in england is awful, and they’d probably be on a waiting list for up to a year, if not longer, to talk to someone. Their dad is no longer very interested in them, and their mum is far too busy or stressed to spend much time with them to talk about stuff, and finances are a problem, etc. It’s clear that it’s affecting them, because of how they’re behaving and what they are saying to me. How can I help them?

  55. what do you reccomend for being forced to help someone? my mom is bipolar and has never taken her mental health seriously, she has often treated me more like a friend or therapist than her daughter. she is always saying that people are labeling her as crazy instead of getting help from her therapist, and I feel like she has never really told her therapist what's going on. I really do want to help her, but I think I need to help myself first. it feels like situations have been escalating lately and I want to get help for my own mental health and I want her to get help too.

  56. I'm currently in the middle of my journey to understand and come to terms with living with depression and anxiety, I realized I wasn't doing so great so I took a break from university because it had been severely affecting my grades and my general well-being. It wasn't until several months after that that my parents realized how miserable I had been but now, I'm regularly going to therapy, taking some medication and setting up a routine for myself. Keeping myself clean and taking care of myself is a LOT harder than I ever admit. How can I tell and talk to my parents about this? They're frustrated because they can't gauge how well I'm actually doing, even though I've told them that I'm improving, they still assume that I'm being "lazy" or I'm not trying hard enough when I'm trying SO FREAKING HARD to get better. It's even harder because they have so much influence over my mental/emotional state and I have tried so…SO many times to help them understand the chaos in my mind. Not only do I have to deal with my anxiety and having random panic attacks because I'm still having some rough days where I feel overwhelmed by just existing, I also have to have the patience to hear what my parents' opinions are and try to not let them affect me. I'm so tired, can you help me?

  57. how do i know when the right time to tell my parents about my suicidal thoughts and depression is? and when that time comes, how do i go about telling them? what do i say?

  58. I have a question about helping someone who I experienced countertransference with. I am not a therapist, but I have taken several psychology classes and am going to be in a social work program next month! I'm not going to tell you much for personal reasons, but I had to limit my communication with this person because it was not good for me emotionally. We only talk about things related to the handcycle team we are both on. Every time I learned more about him, I felt myself becoming more attracted to him. The worst part is that he realized I had feelings for him before I admitted it. I still feel bad about not helping and listening to him anymore. Is this "normal" to feel this way? Thanks in advance!

  59. Hi Kati! What should we do when you are trying to help someone and they start liking you like a mad person, expects you to talk to him all the time whether you have time or not?
    PS.. I am a student of Psychology and looking forward to pursue M. Phil in Clinical Psychology.

  60. this has nothing to do with the video. i’ve been watching numerous amounts of your videos about depression and anxiety, but i don’t know where i stand. i’ve had a mindset for so long that nothing is wrong but i’ve finally concluded that there has to be. i have major ups and major downs. and these ups and downs vary in time. one day i will hang out with my friends, sleep over and hang with them for a few days. and then i’ll come back home and hate social interaction.. and cancel every single plan i’ve made and delete all social media(by this i mean i lose contact with everyone, i even go through my whole contacts list and block everyone to stop them from facetiming or calling me). i’ve done this multiple times throughout summer and these dark times last for at least a week. the worst part about it is that i’m fine with no relationships. some of the symptoms i have self injury, suicidal thoughts, loss of appetite, loss of interest in hobbies such as gaming, painting and drawing. i don’t tell anyone i have these feelings either. and to be frank i’m fucking done with it. i want to be happy.
    i don’t think you’ll ever get to this comment but that’s fine, i just wanted to write it out and feel like someone is there reading it.

  61. Practical help is also really good. When I have times where I am too depressed to get out of bed in the morning (I am a student so I can stay in bed too long), my mom calls me at an arranged time and drinks a coffee with me (in different cities, but still). It helps to not turn around once more and after the call, I'm awake. A good example of practical help without judgement 🙂

  62. It could be really cool with a video about how you take care of yourself while helping others. A couple of people close to me have had and still has mental illnesses, some have been so bad that they were at the hospital for months. I spent so much energy trying to help them that I kind of forgot my self and got very sad and lonely and felt so much shame about my sadness. I felt like I wasn’t aloud to be sad when my friend(s) had it so much worse than I so I wouldn’t really talk about it to anyone. That obviously didn’t help and I ended up needing therapy my self (which took years for me to realize because of the shame). I wasn’t much help for my friends either because I was so tired and irritated all the time.
    My point is you’re the best help if you look after yourself as well and remember you’re also aloud to feel sad

  63. in my personal experience, i was pushed farther away from getting help because my friends would try to force me to speak to someone when really all i needed was a normal conversation with them to help me to feel normal again. I ended up resenting them for some time and not wanting to speak to them because all they ever wanted to talk about was me sorting myself out and getting better and i just wasn’t at that place yet! then because i was continuously defying what they were pushing me towards they began to get frustrated with me because they just didn’t understand what was so hard about it…

    so in full – be patient with your loved one that’s struggling, even though you may get frustrated and angry, probably because you care about them, you want the best for them and you’re scared! try not to show it.
    instead of pushing them to talk about it, change the subject and 99% of the time, they will choose to talk about it, when they’re ready!
    and always reassure them, things like ‘you don’t have to speak to me about it if you don’t want to, but just know i am here and i care and if you ever want to, i’m here to listen :)’

  64. Yes locking a person in a room or ward is not helpful to a persons mental health they require understanding and assistance not processing though a system. I brought a person to a mental health facility and as soon as they opened the doors I regretted it. It was archaic I was horrified. It was clear the staff were under trained and understaffed and shockingly the building was designed for that exact reason. The next day I went to see her and luckily for her she has high intelligence and her fear of that environment motivated her. I watched her handle the psychologists and she told them everything they needed to hear and she was out within the hour. Kati your videos are great you have the right amount of compassion, hopefully if you can, move into politics or lobby so you can be a voice for people with mental health conditions. We, humanity need a change in the political arena to move forward in human understanding. No pressure 🙂 If you choose to you may have to gain higher education to be taken seriously.

  65. I like your videos because you always find the way to say and explain things the right way, never any judgement. (Also with exact definitions) I also feel like your videos in general are something that can be helpful to anyone even if they don’t have a mental disorder and they just want to be more aware and educated. You also have a soothing voice and talk not to a camera but to the people watching the videos. I hope this helps!

  66. Hey Kati!

    Within my life I have helped many people cope with bumpy childhoods where they were spanked as a child, either with hands or objects. I myself was spanked over the bum as a child and then smacked across the face as I matured. Being as spanking is a popular method used to punish a child, what is your professional opinion when it comes to spanking your child? Do you believe it is okay as long as no mark is left and it is a light swat? Does it depend if an object if used? Does the action have long term effects on the child? Considering spanking typically is replaced with smacks as the child matures, should parents utilize a different form of punishment? Should it remain legal?I would love to hear your opinion on this controversial topic. Thanks!!!

  67. I have bipolar II, and my fiancé isn't supportive, he just says that he accept this and it doesn't help at all. On the other hand his brother, who suffers from depression is the most supportive person that I ever met, sometimes he just comes to our house just to play games with me, or we play World of Warcraft together and talk for hours about random things, or even send me memes without context, and he is always there to listen to me, when I have panic attacks he is the one person who can calm me down, just by texting with me, distracting me from panic. I also am always there for him, even when he calls me at middle of the night because he cannot sleep, just lays and cry. I think that having a person who just understands what you going through is the most important thing and having someone who you endlessly trust helps a lot.

  68. I have self harm issues, and i just want someone to hug me, and don't ask anything. Most of the times is just "i'm so disappointed" "don't ever do that again" "you have to control yourself" and that hurts me so much more than my cuts, that when i am really struggling i don't tell a soul.

  69. my daughter died because she wasn't kept in but another country so no they need to be kept in til they can be treated

  70. Yeah. Just recently I lost a friend of several years because he was "impatient" that I was taking so long to "get over" my mental health issues.
    Too Bad. They make my life much crappier than his just because I can't go out with him as often as I used to.
    I really can't stand people who think they can keep demanding of me answers that I'm struggling to find on my own.

  71. Hey Kati! I would love to hear you talk about learning how to connect to our emotions and how to understand them as well as how to help others do that. I just keep thinking of friends and family who are asked about their feelings and are unable to identify feeling words and just revert to describing the literal situation

  72. I tried to open up to someone and showed them what I had done and they told me if I ever did it again they would like tell my parents and school admin and stuff so I dont talk to her abt that stuff anymore but I mean she can't c what I did now she just pushed me further into a corner that I can't get out of I feel trapped now like I can never get out I wish someone would just listen……It felt good to get that off my chest.

  73. I have helped a lot with one of my kinda friends get through suicidal thoughts, depression all of it over a break up but that was linked to childhood trauma so it was incredibly rough. But she’s doing better now and now I’m helping her “ex” gf (it’s complicated) who has serious issues too. She does not open up easily but I’ve found that when I open up and talk about my feelings and then I let her just rant, we were able to get somewhere. It’s an incredibly difficult and crazy situation involving every factor you can think of (literally) but it will get better. I know that. I will make sure of that.

  74. I know something that really helped me when I was going through my treatment was my therapist encouraging and praising my passions. I would bring drawings or talk about art stuff, and even though I know now it wasn't very good, she praised those passions and encouraged me to continue with them. I really think this helps with anything. If you notice your friend is wanting to do something, maybe ask them to sign up for a class with them. Have an art day, or go to a concert with music they like. And really this goes for anyone, but especially with people who are struggling to find motivation to do anything. Passions are what keep us going. and sometimes we need that extra push to really get into those passions.

  75. also kati, this is a great video! I see a ton of great suggestions in the comments, maybe make another video on the tips you find useful?!

  76. Dear Kati, I have a friend who is severely suicidal. I don't know how to help her anymore. I contact her regularly and do the things you mentioned in this video, but I don't know what to do with her suicidal thoughts. I'm getting worried she'll do something and she will not contact me in crisis. She has professional help and medication and I've given her the suicide hotline number and I try to talk to her about it. Do you have any advice?

  77. As someone who has struggled for years, I feel like people are sick of me, afraid I’ll lash out (which I sadly do mostly to those I love the most), or they don’t want to hear the same story I’ve told them 20x or moan about my newest problem. I can sit back and pick out the thinking errors right now, but it’s so hard in the moment.

  78. In Pennsylvania it’s a 302. Family members can file with a judge to have someone committed. Personally to me being kept against my will is more traumatizing.

  79. My sister was sectioned at Easter and she really struggled to feel like she could ask the medical team questions about her own care. I tried to encourage her to do it as the family wasn't always allowed to be there and when I spoke to her on the phone and she said she'd been able to ask the questions she wanted to I told her I was really proud of her and that seemed to help her keep doing it.

  80. What about if you live with someone and you try to talk to them, be there for them, do things for them, etc. But they don't seem to want the help, even though its clear they need it? But all they do is mope around very negative, putting themselves down, & struggle to see the positive no matter what anyone says or does? Then apologizes via text & says "thank you, I just dont feel great nowadays. What you do doesnt go unnoticed, it's just hard to appreciate it in the moment." My friend is doing this and its somehow gotten me into a pit because I feel that my best efforts dont matter, putting me back into a spiral that I had gotten myself out of a while back. It's so draining & idk what to do.

  81. What happens if you see someone struggle with depression for so long and it’s almost like, a ‘waste’ to watch them struggle and suffer when they could get help and relief. It’s hard not to get frustrated that people don’t want or wouldn’t like to get help.
    I would feel very bad if for years, or a whole of a persons like, was just spent depressed and suffering.

  82. She cracked me up at ~0:55 “Hey how is recovery going?!?” 😂. Such great advice however, something I constantly need to remind myself, to just be there for my wife and kids, and not always try to ‘solve’ problems.

  83. 3- cheers for President 🇺🇸Trump
    Americans Have Failed People With Mental Illness. Trump’s New Budget Will Change That.

    “President Trump is exceptionally focused on fighting for Americans who can’t fight for themselves and confronting problems other administrations, both Democratic and Republican, have ignored. This is particularly true for Americans who suffer from addiction and serious mental disorders,” White House Domestic Policy Council Director Joe Grogan writes.

    Nearly 50 million Americans experienced some form of mental illness in 2018. The President’s new budget, out today, proposes the boldest reforms in decades to help them. President Trump gets my conservative democrat vote again in 2020 👍

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