[Kati] Hey everybody! I am joined by the wonderful and amazing Garce Helbig [Grace] Yay! [Kati] and we’re here to talk about if you don’t follow Grace on social media like I do, you… and if you do you’ll know that she works really really hard! she’s very busy! [Grace] Yeah I, I like to stay busy [Kati] yeah, she’s been around the world and I, I, I [GRACE LAUGHS] [Kati] and all the time [KATI JOINS IN THE LAUGHTER] [Grace] Yeah, something like that [GRACE AND KATI CONTINUE LAUGHING] [Kati] and so today, we are here to talk to you about ways that we better take care of ourselves and Grace is gonna share some of the ways she takes mental health care days [Grace] yes [Kati] and just taking care of herself overall. [MARIMBA BASED MUSIC WITH A RELAXING VIBE] [Kati] So, I do a lot of thing where I take time for myself whether it be grabbing coffee by myself – which I know sounds weird; Erm, taking time to spend time with my friends, I’m in therapy myself, erm, what are some things that you do to help yourself when you’re feeling so busy and so stressed? [Grace] Yeah, errr, I’m a Libra astrologically [Kati] Oh me too! [Grace} Yeah, so scales [Kati] Yeah [Grace] So it’s all about fair balance [KATI ACKNOWLEDGES THIS} [GRACE] Trying to kinda maintain balance, so whenever Whenever I feel I’m like working really really hard I try to also give myself permission to rest really really hard. [KATI LAUGHS] and, err, I like to kind of [PAUSES] Maybe you guys do this, maybe you don’t I like to indulge in really mindless things [KATI] Totally! [GRACE] Watch a lot of reality television [KATI] Yes! [GRACE] things that I feel like I’m very, errr, active with my brain and very present in the work that I do, I really just want to give my brain just like a recess. [KATI ACKNOWLEDGES THIS] [GRACE] and just kinda do things that seem monotonous or just seem like mind-numbing to a lot of people [GRACE LAUGHS] [KATI LAUGHING] I’m the same! [GRACE] Yeah… [KATI} and I, I actually think it’s really good because… We do spend a lot of time being thoughtful and [GRACE] Yeah and making sure you’re planning I mean… I know you guys understand this but there’s a lot that goes on behind the scenes of all of this stuff that we create [GRACE] 100 per cent [KATI] Ta da! [GRACE] Yeah [KATI] Erm, yeah and so I used to love Kandi Crush and it was like, it was like a crush! [GRACE] Oh yeah! YEAH! I had to kinda stop because I was going to get too far into it. [KATI] Totally! I had to force myself to delete it! [GRACE LAUGHING] Yeah, yeah! [KATI] No take-baxies! [GRACE] That is the most really adult thing somebody can do, is delete their own Kandi Crush game! [THEY BOTH LAUGH] [KATI] Then I’m not going to download the game and delete it again, [GRACE LAUGHS] [KATI] But I no longer have it on any of my devices [GRACE] There you go! [KATI] I agree, shutting the brain off… [GRACE] Yeah, I’m a real advocate of “Real Housewives” [KATI] Yes [GRACE] All of the franchises I think it also kind of erm, subconsciously gives me perspective on like good life choices that I have made [KATI LAUGHS] [GRACE] in comparison to some of their not-so-good life choices [KATI] Agreed, I’m always like “wow like that fight I had with so and so was terrible” [GRACE LAUGHS] [KATI] “but we didn’t even curse at each other” [GRACE, LAUGHING] Yeah! Exactly, exactly! [GRACE] I think that’s huge. And even, when we were talking before we started doing this the um, just the idea of doing real monotonous like tasks and chores are kinda just a nice reprieve from more like high-functioning things you have to do in your life? [KATI] Totally! and I don’t know if you find this to be true but often, when I’m feeling really frazzled there, I’m sitting there to write, sitting down to plan the videos that I’m creating… [GRACE] uh hu [KATI] I will erm, have to have to like clean my area [GRACE} Yeah [KATI] Or clean my house… [GRACE] Yeah [KATI] Or get my shit together and one way or another [GRACE} Oh um, yeah I spent four hours building uh a clothing wardrobe last night instead of doing my actual work because there were so many boxes around and I felt I couldn’t get started until those boxes were taken care of, but those boxes took a good four hours so… So, sometimes it just doesn’t work out in your favour so you know so check yourself. [KATI] So apart from monotonous things, or taking care of real life things, is there anything that you directly do like an action? [GRACE] Yeah, I do erm, I kinda make a point, and I’ve only realised this within the last, I don’t know, like maybe two years That, I do a lot of creative things in my life and so, when I want to take off from making videos or whatever it is I try and do something creative that doesn’t have any effect on my actual, like, job. Michael’s is a great staple, err, store for anyone that wants to er indulge in some amateur crafting [KATI LAUGHS] [GRACE] it has no consequences and so I like to get like canvases or like work on jewellery or just like really small kinda dumb things… [KATI] Yeah [GRACE] that are still flexing that creativity muscle… [KATI] Totally. [GRACE] But don’t have any baring and I don’t have to show anyone if I don’t want to if they turn out really terribly! [THEY BOTH LAUGH] [KATI] Yeah… [GRACE] Yeah, so I find a lot of like real joy in kind of just like working by myself on stuff like that. I imagine it’s probably really fun to do with others as well, if you’re a bit [KATI] Yeah! [GRACE] … of a social person [KATI] True [KATI] Sometimes it’s nice to be just alone too. [GRACE] Yeah [KATI] but sometimes I find I can take care of myself, just taking time by myself [GRACE] Yeah [KATI] A lot of what we do is just… energy out [GRACE ACKNOWLEDGES] [KATI] Sometimes if I don’t have to interact, and be on I can put energy back in [GRACE] 100 per cent… 100 per cent and it… I have this really, and I’m sure a lot of over-achievers types might have this issue where you think taking time off is like … failing or is like a negative [KATI] You’ll feel guilty… [GRACE] Yeah, but it’s so, helpful, like really truly have figured in the last couple of years that taking time off is actually like investing in yourself [KATI LAUGHS] Yeah [GRACE] in a way… [KATI] and like yeah, letting us do what we do… [GRACE] Yeah [KATI] and I have trouble with that too… it’s like work/life balance it’s not really a thing when you work for yourself? [GRACE] Totally [KATI] and I still trying to find a way to like like, cut off for like a week. [GRACE] Oooh, I know, that sound CRAZY! [KATI] I know right, I should snatch at that, I should go in there and comment… I should like… I should I should, I should [GRACE] Yeah [KATI] And I know, I tell my clients – and that’s why we state therapists are not perfect and I don’t pretend to live a serious and put together life [GRACE] I, recently got back , like two days ago from a Tony Robbins event this weekend, [KATI] Oh yeah, OK [GRACE] and it like blew my mind Coming from a comedy point of view I want to, so badly, make fun of everything that happens this weekend but I really was so wonderful and so enlightening and so empowering that I can’t say enough good things about it. But, one thing it really taught you is that, erm, you, you operate best with all your relationships when you’re operating best with yourself, [KATI] Uh hmmm [GRACE] When you’re really taking time for yourself and really like managing you own happiness levels [KATI] Yeah [GRACE] yeah and it’s like that RuPaul phrase like “if you don’t love yourself how the hell are you going to love anyone else?” and yeah it sounds dumb but yeah but the fundamentals of it are so important and so true and so I’m just Even going to that event itself for me, was just taking time off work but also something like really necessary for me so I think one great thing I try and do more is something good for myself Like intentionally good for myself… [KATI] …like scheduling time to be good to yourself [GRACE] Yeah, either take a vacation with friends or you know, go to a museum or something that is stimulating in a way that you wouldn’t necessarily make that time for yourself normally [KATI] Yeah [GRACE] Uh, yeah and I was kind of adverse to going to this for a while but when I was there I was so, like, thankful and appreciative of my decision to go down there [KATI] Totally! [GRACE] Yeah I think that’s really important. So, seek out things that might put you off and like and like kind of scare you because you’re really curious about it. [KATI] Yeah like and I find that I’m the same [GRACE] Uh hmm [KATI] I’m… just going to throw it out here so you guys can judge all you want in the comments that’s totally fine [GRACE LAUGHS] [KATI] But I’m not one to sign up to like … ‘ENLIGHTMENT” [GRACE SHOUTING] Right, Yeah! [KATI] I’m like “awwe” [WINCES] [KATI] I’m laughing in my head so hard… [GRACE] Exactly! And with the entire like 9,000 people there this weekend and so like Normally seeing that written down on paper I’d be like “throw it in the garbage!” I don’t want anything…. [KATI] I was just thinking of that! GRACE] Exactly! But it was just really just wonderful. So, push yourself a little bit. [KATI] Yeah, and I find if I get out of my comfort zone ummm, random thought, [GRACE] Yeah [KATI] I was in as a junior in college and a lot of people went away and studied abroad I didn’t have the opportunity as I paid my way all the way through school, and I got the opportunity to study Spanish in Costa Rica over the summer [GRACE] Oh, uh cool! [KATI] and I was scared. Like shitless like “I don’t wanna go” “no, I…” [GRACE] yeah yeah yeah “no I don’t” and then when I was there after the first day of like trauma nobody speaks English holy shit what do I do I was so grateful because when you step out of your comfort zone I really think you learn a lot about yourself and it gave me time to kind of I don’t know, do some of that inside work [GRACE] Yeah [KATI] Yeah and give some of that energy back to myself like we’re talking about. [GRACE] Yeah! And it’s so much easier said than done “Just step outside your comfort zone!” [GRACE AND KATI LAUGHING] Or you know, “walk off that bridge!” or whatever that is, I mean metaphorically [KATI] “Trust us, you’ll be OK” [KATI] Thank you so much for sharing all your helpful tips! [GRACE] Thank you! Thank you so much for having me. Kati you’re wonderful, are you guys subscribed? Subscribe, share with all your friend, enemies… Dog, etcetera [KATI LAUGHS] [GRACE] Subscribe to this channel, it’s a wonderful channel! [KATI] Especially the dog [GRACE LAUGHS] Yes, they need help too [KATI] Yes, but it’s always important for us to take mental health days take care of ourself; I know – Grace and I suffer with the internal guilt, [GRACE] Yeah [YATI] and know that’s a normal feeling, that’s OK but we still have to do it because otherwise it leads to burnout. it leads us to feeling worse and we can’t love other people if we don’t love ourselves. So, I hope some of these tips are helpful for you I’ll put the information down in the description for those of you who have trouble following along because I talk quickly [GRACE LAUGHS] And I’ll see you next time.