Trans 101: Ep 12 – Therapy [CC]

Trans 101: Ep 12 – Therapy [CC]

[Intro music plays] [Chase]: Hi, and welcome to another episode of the trans 101 series. Today, we are going to be talking about therapy. So what is therapy? Why do we need to go to therapy? Here’s the thing, when you are trans, you absolutely have to go to therapy. This is what they tell you. You have to go to therapy in order to get a diagnosis of Gender Dysphoria and in order to get letters um, in order to transition. So, letters for hormones, letters for surgeries and letters in order to change your name and your gender marker, legally. So these are the people who basically decide your life and decide how you’re going to transition and when you’re going to transition. Now, I’m saying it this way because this is a very big problem and it is very hard to get through some of these gatekeepers because some people either have never dealt with trans people, don’t know the diagnosis criteria for Gender Dysphoria or refuse to do it. So if you’re looking to transition the first thing that you should do is look for a therapist, usually is what you should do. So looking in these places is great but if you don’t live in a…in a… big area, in a big city that offers any type of clinic like this, it is kind of tricky to find a therapist that is good with trans people. So the best thing to do is, honestly, post online in your area and see if anybody has ever had therapy in that area or even just a little bit further away in order to get therapy. This way you know that you’re avoiding maybe like six months to a year of a therapist that looks promising, but then refuses to give you a letter even though you know that you’re trans and you just need a letter from a therapist in order to transition. So a letter by a therapist isn’t always needed in order to get uh, hormones or surgery. There are some clinics that offer informed consent hormones, which is really great; you go in and you sign a paper and you get your hormones. No therapy needed. This is really fantastic and it kind of breaks away the barrier of gatekeepers, which is great. But I do think that therapy should still be an option where people who are offering informed consent also offer therapy at the same time, if the person needs to talk about some things. Because I have known some people who just go to get informed consent T; they sign the paper, they get their T and they j–..they’re not ready; they’re not ready for some of the emotional things that happen when you transition, uh, because they didn’t know about them. And having a therapist kind of explain and kind of go through the changes that hormones will give you, even though your doctor should be doing that, not all doctors do, um, a therapist would be able to kind of walk you through it, and I think that that’s super important. But I don’t think that we should have to pay for that and I think that it should be optional and not mandatory. Making it mandatory makes it…makes it tricky, alright, because when you are sitting in front of someone – you know you’re trans – and you just need…you’re literally just sitting there, sitting through all these sessions just to get a letter for hormones… it’s very hard because a lot of people… it’s very hard because I feel like a lot of people don’t express themselves 100%, because they just want to get that letter, right. So if you’re feeling like you like pink and you like musicals, some people kind of… not…don’t talk about these specific aspects of their life because they feel that it’s too feminine and if they tell a therapist, the therapist is going to be like “oh, mmm, not trans, never mind, I’m not giving you your letter,” or “I’m going to charge you for more sessions in order to see if you are really trans.” So making therapy mandatory makes it hard for people to express themselves; it can cause problem later on. So having therapy as an option and offering informed consent T everywhere should be a really great option because then you’re able to go to therapy, express yourself how you want and just have somebody there to just talk to you and talk openly and explain things to you and just to…just…just to have someone there, which I think is so much better than, you know, sitting there and therapy and..hmm. Now, some people really like therapy, some people get it covered by insurance, which is great; most people don’t have it covered by insurance, and it is expensive. I will say that you don’t have to go to a specific gender therapist, alright. You don’t have to. You just need to find a therapist in your area that can deal with um…. trans peop- can deal with trans people- that sounds weird… You know what I mean. So if the person in your area has never dealt with trans people in the past, maybe put a little little post online, on Facebook and try to see if any of them, any people that you have in your friends, anyone who knows anything about the area that you live in, or the area near you, live in, maybe knows a therapist, um, that might be adequate to either diagnose you or um, give you letters or anything like that. So what happens in your first gender therapy or therapy related to trans things? Here’s the thing, a lot of people ask this question because they’re curious and they want to know what to prepare for. There’s not one answer that I can give you because all therapists are different; there’s not one big center in the world that kind of deals with trans people all the same way in therapy. Um, usually they ask you about your past. That’s usually the first therapy session; they ask you, um…you know, “What was your childhood like,” or “How are your parents,” “Are you close to your parents,” “How do you feel now?” It’s usually always about your past, and that’s with any type of therapy at all. They always ask what happened before, before they focus on what happens now. So once that’s over with, then you can kind of start talking about how you felt your gender was and how you experience your gender when you were younger and how you know that you’re trans and…and when you realized it, and what makes you think that you’re trans now, so it’s a lot of questions and some therapists take the approach of, like, you need to convince me that you’re trans, while other ones are just more passive; they sit down and let…I want you to tell me why you’re trans, and then we can talk about it. So those are t- …k-…kind of like the two types of therapists that I have experienced in gender type therapy and it’s hard to kind of go through the one where you’re trying to convince them, because that’s the one where you’re like, “Oh, gotta make sure I don’t say anything too feminine because then like, I won’t be trans.” Just gonna say really quick, if you identify as trans and you know that you’re trans and the therapist is giving you a hard time and making you convince them, you’re still trans, okay. Ah, th-…these doctors aren’t here to invalidate you, but some don’t know a lot, so some invalidate you without you knowing. I literally had a…a panel of five doctors tell me that I wasn’t trans enough um…because I told them that I don’t identify 100% as male. I’m more 70-80% male, and they told me I’m not trans. Really? I’m not trans, really? You’re gonna tell me I’m not trans, like… I feel so much better with myself and my life and my body because I have transitioned, because guess what… I’m trans. So examples like that, those gatekeepers, literally it was like a wall of them right in front of me, like literally a wall in front of me, of… of…gatekeepers, and it was very traumatic, but once you realize, “Don’t listen to them. I know who I am; I know that I need to transition,” or “I know that I need to do this,” that’s when you need to find yourself another therapist. Anyways, I hope this helped clear a little bit about therapy, um, and if you have any questions at all, put them in the comments below. I will put links in the description of anything that I can find for centers, um, that deal with trans people that are kind of very big, ah, in big cities in America mostly, and Canada. Alright, thank you so much for joining me and I’ll see you later. Bye. [Outro music plays}

89 Replies to “Trans 101: Ep 12 – Therapy [CC]”

  1. Do you have to stay in therapy as long as you take hormones or could you stop when you got all the letters that you are looking for?

  2. The comment about how you described yourself as “70, 80% male” (6:05–6:29) to that panel relieved me. I keep throwing myself into a tailspin about the legitimacy of me being trans or not.

    Also, what if you're questioning? How should one approach going through gender therapy of they're not even sure? Is that advisable? Or could that potentially be more trouble than it's worth since many figure it out without gender therapy? Thanks for all your videos Chase, have a wonderful day

  3. I'll be living in a very small town in australia… I think I'll have to move each time to Brisbane lol (3h away from it actually…)

  4. i'm going to see a therapist very soon because i hope to get testoterone soon, but i'm super stressed because i'm non-binary (demiboy) and i don't know if i should tell the truth or lie, because i really need T and i don't think i could bear being told i can't get it because i'm "not trans enough" :/

  5. In my country you must have a diagnosis of Transsexualism to be able to get hormones. It takes years to get it… At least the treatments (including surgeries) are free but no therapy is actually included in the process. Only evaluations, private questions and notes about what you're wearing. We need IC. Stat. I almost gave up on life completely not even halfway through because the process was just awful.

  6. The problem I see for not mandetory therapy (unpopular opinion) and going on hormones without help are the people that jump to hormones without being really ready. BUT the therapy should be a support, not a way to hold you down and stop you. In Germany you need therapy, but there are therapists that give you your letter after 1, 2 sessions (and you don't have to pay for anything, thanks to insurence). The real problem (for me at least) was the endo, I had to wait A YEAR to get on hormones, after I got my letter…

  7. Thank you Chase, this was just what I needed. Have been in therapy for one year and just received a referral to a gender therapist, but have to wait 11 months before they have time. Then one more year of therapy, and then if they decide I am trans, treatment. Feels like an eternity! But knowing that you also had to fight, and that you won helped. So thank you.

  8. There is a therapist in my town who does letters and doesn't gatekeep. Pretty much all you need to do is probably have some sessions with her so she can get to know you and then she'll give you letters for hormones, surgeries, name change, etc.

  9. I'm actually really scared of going to therapy for transition, because I'm gender fluid. I live in a smaller area on top of that, and can't afford to see someone not on my insurance. I want T but I get invalidated on a daily basis and don't want it from a "professional" as well…….idk what to do……..

  10. Im get a referral for a psychologist on tuesday afternoon… Im sooo anxious… But im so excited ro though cause thats one step closer to getting on T 🙂 i still keep changing my name though cause i like one name for a few months but then i hear a new one and then i switch to that… Or i look up the meaning lol… For now im sticking with Carson

  11. I don't know if I need to go to therapy. I'm non-binary but consider myself trans (I change my name and bind) and I'm not sure about that but I want to start taking hormones in the future and later get top surgery. My family is very supportive but my mom keeps telling me I should love my body the way it is now (doesn't understand dysphoria) and she asked me about going to therapy just to talk to someone about it. I really don't know if there's anything to say besides that I'm nb but I realized that you need a therapist's note to get hormones now so I don't know if I should… I still think I'm too young to decide (17) but next year I'm going to the army (a thing in my country) and I read somewhere they help pay for hormones which could be helpful. I just wanted to write that for some reason XD

  12. The waiting is excruciating. Having to explain your entire life story and prove just how "trans enough" you are over a long time. At this rate by the time I get my diagnosis and can even think about getting on hormones it will have been 2 years since I got a referral 🙁 On the bright side because I'm Finnish I'll get everything except hormones practically free which is an amazing privilege I try to be grateful for. It can be hard at times when there is no informed consent thing here, no way to get around it even if you had a fortune, and it feels like it's not going anywhere, you know.

  13. Fortunately, therapy was not something that I was mandatory for me when I was get on testosterone. I went to my general practitioner and asked for a referral to an endocrinologist that dealt with transgender health. After that I was able to make an appointment with that endocrinologist, and after an initial consultation, my endocrinologist said she felt comfortable with me starting hormone replacement therapy. It is worth noting though I was already in therapy but it wasn't for gender identity, just for general mental health that I was struggling with. I talked to my endocrinologist about the letter for hormones, and she said that a lot of endos that specialize in transgender health are trying to move away from mandating a letter and instead having a consultation where from there they decide or will refer you to a therapist that works with them if they notice that the person in question isn't completely aware of what the consequences or is unsure themselves. Sorry for the long post and I hope it could add some more information to the discussion.

  14. I wish more doctors were like my doctor. They (non binary !!) let me talk about what I was dealing with (even though they aren't a therapist) and promised me from the beginning that nothing I said could change their mind about giving me hormones and also explained the side effects really really well.

  15. You sre a sweetheart Chase! You are very educated and your outreach is fantastic. I honor you ! Have you thought of later in life to be a suportive therapist in our community ? I know you would be great in that field. You are already doing a wondetful job, you live it, you researct it and

  16. I had to wait six months to get into a clinic with informed consent, but my appointment to sign the papers for the hormones is the 17th so I'm almost there!

  17. It feels like the overall message is that therapy is adversarial than cooperative. That sounds like it was your experience, but I don't think it's the way to approach therapy. A good gender therapist will walk you thought questions you might not have thought about, help you understand weird quirks you may be experiencing, etc. The most important part is that a good gender therapist won't tell you who or what you are — they let you figure that out — they just guide you along the way. If you find your relationship at all adversarial, I think you need to find a different therapist. If the relationship is good, you should not experience adversarial feelings, you should be feeling that they are important guides.

  18. also mandatory therapy makes both parties aware that you're only there to reach a definite end goal and can make the whole thing very disingenuous

  19. I also identify as about 80% male. I live in the U.K and I'm worried that when it comes to my gender therapy (that I'm on the waiting list for) they will say I'm not trans enough

  20. It would be great if you could make a video for therapists/psychologists about the do's/don'ts when dealing with trans clients (not only when needing a letter, but more general when they seek help for their dysphoria or maybe other psychological issues not related to being trans). I'm just starting out as a therapist and I would find a video about this really interesting as I sometimes see trans people in my practice and I feel I need to educate myself as much as I can. I already try to be very aware of the specific issues (like asking about pronouns) but I'm sure I could learn a lot more from people who have experienced being in the client seat and who have maybe (sadly) been mistreated by therapists (be it out of ignorance of phobia). Love your videos!

  21. I was seeing a psychologist for my depression a few years ago. Then I started seeing him again when my wife died, as I'd plunged back into suicidal thinking. A couple of years ago I asked him to look into the trans therapy options on my behalf here in Melbourne. There's a place here that does all that. Most trans people go through them. He has extensive experience in the mental health sector. Anyway, a couple of months later he got back to me and assured me that yes, they would treat me. But he also told me his reservations — specifically that he was concerned that they would treat me, but they would also mistreat me. By imposing standards of gender conformity on me that are too rigid. So I just continue to see him. He's been wonderful. He often tells me that he thinks about gender issues relating to me specifically and that motivates him to do more reading on the topic of gender. In our sessions we often chat about the personal impact of gender expression and identity. It's nice having a psychologist with 40 years experience in counselling who is sympathetic to me and knows me pretty well.

  22. I googled transgender therapy in "fill in area" and I found a lot of sources. It took me a few months but I found a really great therapist.

  23. In Finland, getting letters for hormones is pretty laboursome. There's only two gender-clinics in the whole country to begin with. You need to travel hundreds of miles to see 4-6 different doctors and therapists in the span of about a year and explain to all of them your entire life story and how that ties to you being trans. It's expensive, annoying and hard, especially if you have difficult trauma from the past, because you have to explain it so many times. I've also heard of cases where the person was denied because they were too mentally ill. Thankfully, all the doctors and nurses and social workers I went to were nice!

  24. If you are in the US, the Psychology Today Transgender Therapist search can help you find someone who uses your insurance, in your area, or on a sliding pay scale. (I don't work for them; I just found it useful.)

  25. my first therapist I dealt with for trams issues disregarded my trans identity entirely and focused more on my OCD and got frustrated with me when I didn't want to talk about my OCD as it isn't a big problem for me. My second therapist i am currently seeing for trans stuff accepted me as trans the moment I walked in and our sessions were more "convince me you're stable enough for hormones" as I am dealing with depression, anxiety, the works. and after 3-4 months of therapy she finally wrote me my letter. it does seem like a really long time but honestly it was really worth it to find the right person who will take you seriously and will get you help you need in order to transition

  26. i did some research on my area. well, i actually couldn't find much. i then contacted our LGBTQ+ center and they had a bunch of resources for hormones and trans friendly therapists. i was so happy and relived to hear that our area had these resources. the problem is… it's hard to find. if u do a google search they have the center on there but any trans friendly therapists or doctors who can give u hormones don't show up. u have to learn from other ppl who have transitioned in my area. or go to the center to ask about it. ;o

  27. Do you think I should go to a therapist to help figure out if I'm really trans or not? I feel like I might be but idk… I feel like I need help but I have no idea who to ask for help

  28. So I always try to watch the ads because I want creators to benefit but I just want everyone to know that I just sat through a 4 min video about how liberal arts colleges ~indoctrinate and brainwash~ people and how you should ~wake up~ and become a conservative and favor limited government. They even used a token black woman as the narrator/host. It was disgusting and sad and I hate to see that shit on your videos. I wish you had some control over the ad content.

  29. My question is how much easier it is to get a letter from a therapist after being on hormones for a couple years through informed consent . Hopefully it'll be easier since I've been living as male for a few years now ?

  30. I've never been comfortable with the idea of therapy… I'm not very good at expressing and explaining how or why I think I'm trans, not even to myself, or talking about anything pertaining to my younger years (because I have a lot of repressed memories, like more than a decade of repressed memories), so I start to think that maybe I'm really not trans, or trans enough. Since I can't explain to someone how it is that I'm trans and what made me come to that conclusion, maybe I'm just imagining it? These are the kinds of thoughts I have sometimes (and actually even more so with recent tran drama on the Twitter(tm)).

    But in the state of Ohio there's a clinic in Cleveland called the Pride Clinic, which is specifically for LGBT+ care. It goes on informed consent for HRT as well, and I've been thinking about taking a trip up there (I live ~4 hours from there rip) to have an appointment with them, but lately the "not trans enough" thoughts have been coming back and I'm self-doubting my own identity.

  31. I think there should be some required therapy/explanation for like 4 sessions before someone starts hormones so they can explain whats going to happen, make sure you really want this, etc, etc

  32. Does anyone know the best place to go if you are beginning to think you are trans (but could be on the non-binary side) but want to talk to someone trained on the subject of gender? For context, I would struggle with doubting my feelings if someone I trusted as a profession outright told me what my gender was. Any help would be appreciated ~~

  33. I feel almost weird because I'm going to normal therapy in about a week and then gender therapy in a month. I just feel like nobody else does that and I don't think I want to mention being trans to my normal therapist but that's where most of my problems come from so idk what to do.

  34. This is about therapy for trans people who are transitioning, but what about situations where things go wrong? Some of what I've seen about trans people, especially when they're young, says sometimes young people may seem trans, or think they're trans for a period of time, but ultimately decide they're not, while others may be trans, but decide against medical transition for whatever reason, yet if they had been able to start hormone therapy right away, it might have caused permanent harm. And here's another type of situation: the first trans person I ever knew transitioned three times in the years I knew her — mtf, ftm, then mtf. At some point she sued the hospital where she had her initial bottom surgery for not making sure she was ready for it (I think she lost). Plus she seemed to have serious body dysmorphia as well as gender dysmorphia and had a large number of cosmetic surgeries. I don't think any of it made her happy. (By the way, this was more than twenty years ago, long before I ever even heard the word transgender.) That's an extreme example, but I'm sure a lot of trans people have related issues that could be helped with therapy. It would be great if you could talk about some things like that.

  35. my mom told me 2 years ago that i "wasn't trans" because my favourite colour has always been purple since i was a kid, and a couple months ago when i got a counselor i told him about that and he laughed and pulled out a purple notebook and said it's his favourite colour as well and that he's pretty sure he's a man lmao.
    why are parents so caught up in gender roles!??!?

  36. Not true in all cases. Im three weeks on t, and I never did therapy. You can also get your referral from a pediatrician.

  37. I'm in Oregon in America & here you do need to see a WPATH certified therapist & have them write a letter of recommendation before you can get top surgery but for hormones it depends on the clinic. One clinic I went to required a WPATH letter before starting hormones but another clinic didn't.

  38. I dont get how you need to see a therapist to "transition" but some therapists dont even know how to deal with trans people or are really ignorant on trans things.

  39. So on another subject i educated my therapist when i was in therapy about gender identity (because i identify as fluid). I went to her for other reasons (ie. Depression, anxiety, self harm…..). She wanted to know more because she wanted to know how to approach gender because she didn't know much. She is also a crisis rotation therapist at my communities clinic who took initiative after they realized that a significant amount of crisis cases in my community were centered on gender and sexuality. Although i don't intend to transition at the current moment some of the youth in my community could benefit from me as an advocate and my work with the clinic on it being a safe space for those who don't identify as cis and/or straight.

  40. I was lucky to have insurance through work that covers psych therapy and found Dr. Michel Campbell in Montreal who gave me my T letter at my second one-hour session and top surgery letter at my third. Highly recommend, he's very nice. Just expensive ($165/hr)

  41. My therapist told me she would send me my letter by mail and that I want have to comme back, but its been a month and she dosent even reply to my mails… WTF? should I be worried?

  42. I've been really enjoying your videos, but the assertion that you have to go to therapy if you want to get hormones if your trans is flat-out untrue. I can't speak for any other country than the United States, but there are a plethora of doctors (and most Planned Parenthood locations) that will offer hormones to trans people via informed consent, which basically means that you understand the risks associated with HRT. The clinic that I attended in the American Southeast gave me hormones without a letter on my first visit. This is super important for access to healthcare for people who can't afford or don't want therapy, and I think it's absolutely deserves a video if you're still producing them.

  43. This is the reason I am becoming an LMFT. I am excited to be a gatekeeper for my own community. Keep these coming Chase. They are great. I've sent them to many, many people.

  44. im so glad u said that u dont need to fell 100% male bc i only feel about 60/70% male (varies from day to day) but bc of that i use the label demiboy (but that still counts as trans i guess?)

  45. This is true and I love my therapist. He is the best and he actually specializes in transgender therapy. He actually feels like an ally. You need to find someone who will make you feel informed and feel like they are on your side.
    Another option, see if you can find a trans group that meets once or twice a week. They may have some ideas about who you can see who would be a good choice for a therapist.
    Of course, I live in the Palm Springs area which has a really big LGBTQ community so I am lucky for that. I'm sorry, but I'm going to make the recommendation that you find a place that is more open-minded if you want to go through transitioning if you live in an area where it is not accepted and you might be in danger if you do this. Not all communities are accepting and finding one would be a good start. I don't like hearing about people getting hurt because of their sexual orientation or physically changing to match the gender they identify themselves as. It's something I have been warned about though I have never had a confrontation.

  46. I am a transgender male, soon I will be going to talk to my doctor about it and I'm really excited. Having this type of information (in the whole series) is super helpful, I've learned a lot so far. Most of it I did not know about. Thankyou for making this series Chase

  47. I know it’s important to go to therapy but honestly I hate therapy because they either just talk to me and do nothing, they don’t understand trangenders and transitioning, or you have to go because everyone around you thinks you’re crazy and don’t know who you are. I wish it were as easy to just go to therapy and get a diagnosis and get hormones.

  48. The whole white hair and black collar shirt look is so handsome. It’s rare to find people beautiful on the inside and then just a handsome smol Bean

  49. GODDDD after already starting my transition I went to a psychiatrist for unrelated issues (anxiety + ADHD) and the dude GRILLED me about my gender on the intake. made me feel so inadequate. all I wanted was treatment for my anxiety and attentional issues, I was already seeing a social worker who specializes in trans issues and an endocrinologist with a lot of experience with trans patients. like I needed absolutely no trans-related care from this guy but he spent half an hour asking me what I meant by 'male.' like, I dunno, dude, what do you mean when you say you're male? how do I even answer that? "I don't feel like a girl." "but what do you mean by not like a girl?" "like, I feel uncomfortable living with that gender, I don't feel like it fits" "no but what do you mean by 'gender'?" and he asked a bunch of questions about what genitals I have like fUCK IM HERE ABOUT ADHD MEDICATION CALL MY SOCIAL WORKER IF YOU HAVE QUESTIONS

  50. I have a diagnosis of gender dysphoria. It was at the time when i was forced out of the house by rampant transphobia. I was going through therapy to transition then it was cut short by my transphobic parents.

  51. i have a gender therapist ((im ftm)) and ive legit worn a skirt to therapy on one than more occasion and he doesnt even bat an eyelash

  52. I know I am late to this video but I have some questions. So I have had problems throughout my life with being female, I was a pretty sheltered kid in a Christian family (some home and transphobia) and I also have a really hard time identifying my emotions, like it’s kind of weird I feel feelings, I just can’t put a label on them like “oh I’m happy” and for awhile I identified as non binary but I don’t feel like I fully identify as that. So anyone going through or has gone through something similar?

  53. I think it's appropriate to have "gatekeepers" when it's a matter of taking hormones, having surgery and legally changing genders. It's a BIG deal and huge life decision. Look at marriage, half and as the people change and grow together or apart. Personal knowledge grows as we mature. We can't see what's ahead and changing ur ability to have kids is a BIG one in the instance of bottom surgery. It's a good choice to have someone to talk to while making that decision. Just my opinion. It can be frustrating to feel like you have to justify yourself and receive approval so it's good to find a competent professional. The money spent is worth it, you're worth it to make sure that you are ready and happy with your transition.

  54. I live in a place that doesn’t even speak English so I can’t get my point across and even if this was an English speaking county, no one here does those sort of things. I don’t think people can even imagine that people ‘want’ to be a different gender/sex.
    I have to wait a seriously long time, maybe when I get to university in Canada, hopefully, to even start therapy to transition. It’s a very long wait for me, but I’m going to take it as a chance to see if I really do identify as trans or just heavily with what a trans person is.
    Thank you for your resources, but as of now, they are purely pushing me on to think about what I could do.
    So once again, thank you.

  55. I live in a place that doesn’t even speak English so I can’t get my point across and even if this was an English speaking county, no one here does those sort of things. I don’t think people can even imagine that people ‘want’ to be a different gender/sex.
    I have to wait a seriously long time, maybe when I get to university in Canada, hopefully, to even start therapy to transition. It’s a very long wait for me, but I’m going to take it as a chance to see if I really do identify as trans or just heavily with what a trans person is.
    Thank you for your resources, but as of now, they are purely pushing me on to think about what I could do.
    So once again, thank you.

  56. Okay so..
    I'm pretty young and my parents are transophobic. I feel trans. I feel uncomfortable as a girl, and again, I'm young and I can't go to therapists alone, without someone noticing. I really hate my life right now…Like…A lot. I feel umfortable showering, wearing feminine clothes (parents force me to.) and can't get chest binders.

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