100 Replies to “What is Schema Therapy? | Kati Morton”

  1. It feels like your videos are aimed right at me… I recently found out I have ASD (as an adult) – you recently did a video about that… and now I'm reading a book about anxiety and Autism… and it talks about schema therapy!

  2. How would I go about asking about this, or requesting schema therapy with my psychiatrist? Just flat out, "What do think about schema therapy?" or something? It's like… I'm turning 33, and have been seeing psychiatrists, therapists, counselors, etc since I was 9, and have been CBT'd, and drugged for all of it. I still have severe problems. I don't want her to think I'm trying to leave her, or disrespect what she does. I just want to be able to live life.

  3. Most of your videos I can't really relate to but I just think you have a very calming and friendly voice and I listen to them in the background.

  4. Hey Kati, great video!
    Question: Is there any person who could potentially not benefit from talk therapy – no matter the theory that is being used? Why/in what situations?
    Also, I would love to see more videos from a therapist's personal standpoint: countertransference, burnout, feelings of incompetency, etc. I am in my masters program towards licensure and find your videos thoroughly helpful (and entertaining). Thank you!! 🙂

  5. And what am I supposed to do with being emotionally damaged this past weekend at the age of 25 when I though things were better with my family, and instead made me feel like shit? Cause I do. In fact, I think because I’m 25, it’s worse. I don’t even want to hurt myself. Which is great. I just don’t know how I feel. It’s so hard to grasp that I don’t know what to think.

  6. That's a good video and schema therapy sounds great. Thanks. Would you say schema therapy is right for codependency or would it be a different therapy?

  7. Hi Kati , thanks for the video , How does Schema Therapy correlate why Inner Child Work ?
    I can identify many parallels between the two , although today is the first I have heard of Schema Therapy. Thanks , Gary 

  8. Could you do a video about experience taking? I think it’s when you watch something or read something and then when you’re done you end up feeling and to some extent believing you are one of the characters in the story

  9. When I make a mistake that causes a higher stress or consequence situation, I often find I crumble and turn on myself. (Why cant I make things work, why am I such a flake, why cant I balance things in my life as well as others).

    I find I have a couple days crashing, a week or two of pulling everything back together, and about 3 weeks of things going ok, before I lose it again.

    Is this a type of schema possibly? I find its been a pretty consistent pattern in my life for at least the last decade or more.
    Sometimes its every few weeks, to during the best times every few months.

  10. When you talk about empty chair therapy, it makes me think of the approach i read in a book to use stuffed animals and role play things to take myself out of the equation and try to prevent dissociation

  11. Hi Kati, this may be a controversial topic but have you seen the Leaving Neverland film with the 2 men who have now disclosed in detail Micheal Jackson's grooming and sexual abuse?
    Will you do a video response to it? I think it's important to recognise that sexual abuse can be difficult to identify, and these kids didn't feel "abused" because Micheal told them he loved them and made them feel special. Maybe a video on grooming and how to identify it and how to talk to kids about it?

  12. Hi Kati. Thanks for all the info! Great video again ❤️ I am currently doing a very good kognitive behavioral therapy and my therapist just recently brought that chair technique up from schema therapy so your video is coming at a wonderful time! 🙂 So, is it usual that it is also included into CBT sometimes?

  13. What is IPT? My psychiatrist recommended me to speak to my therapist about starting it but didn’t do much explaining . My therapist didn’t seem too familiar with it when I brought it up… can you help? THANK YOU!

  14. So as someone with C-PTSD, depression, anxiety, ADD, possibly eating disorder (some sort of binge eating) and a mixed personality disorder with AvPD being most dominant (but also BPD & Dependent), schema therapy would probably work better than CBT and/or DBT? I haven't had much luck with CBT bc I have too many issues with my past to be able to move forward and none of my counselors were willing to work with me about my past and just kept telling me to forget about it, it is in the past and you can't change the past. Literally was told this by two counselors, one of which was the head of the department for MultiCare Behavioral health.

  15. My unmet childhood need of emotional nuturing has led me to fall into a type of eating disorder (a rather non pasé appraoch to eating). I realized this recently and now I'm trying to nurture myself through meals 🖤

  16. A very interesting video. I have been watching your videos for a while now and I wonder why you often ask "Does that make sense?" in the middle of your explanations. I also noticed you stating sometimes that some things sound too "therapisty" in a way, which was always a bit confusing because both of of those things come out of nowhere and are kind of interrupting the flow of your explanations. I don't know if I'm the only one finding this confusing, but I just wanted to ask what the reason behind those two interruptions are, that appeared more than once (or else I probably would not have noticed them at all).

  17. i absolutely love this. thankyou for sharing kati, i think this approach in therapy would help so many.

  18. Would love to know more about schema therapy 🙂 Please do more on this. I looked it up, and just as a light overview, found out I have quite a few… You have a job security issue lol! (We always want to know more)

  19. Great you brought up inner voice and challenging our inner voices beliefs about ourselves. Following that belief to its original conception in our past to its root cause. It is a favorite technique, I use self examples to share and help others.

  20. Hi! This was such a great video! I started my schema therapy 2-3months ago, also am reading book about it, by Jeffrey Young 🙂 I love that it takes different methods from other techniques and combines it 🙂 it's not an easy road, never is, but I see more, and understand more about my behaviour now, and hopefully I will be able to overcome my schemas 🙂

  21. Had my first session with a new therapist yesterday and she told me she wants to do schema therapy with me. I'd never heard of it before, so I've spent all day researching it. I can't believe the timing of your video! The universe is wild haha. Thanks Kati 🙂

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  23. Poop, I wanted to reply to my own comment, but I couldn’t… Anyways, would you be willing to make a video on Megalomania? I don’t feel like it’s about enough and I’m curious because I’ve heard the term, but I want to know more about it and I don’t really know what it is. What disorders does it hang out with?

  24. Chair work, for me the most brutal and helpful technique my therapist used. I always was extremely tired after it, but we learned so much doing it.

  25. Is it bad that I use your videos to help me study for my NCEs? I took a practice test and did fairly well on it by remembering what was in your videos. Those questions I got right. The ones I got wrong, I have never heard of. Like book titles. Love it!

  26. Thankyou Kati ,really interesting video .I think Schema Therapy could help me and everyone.Thankyou for all your help .I suffer from Bpd .Sending bright blessings

  27. I love how you say things like “does that make sense?”, makes me feel like you’re actually talking to me and were having a real conversation, rather than just watching a video. Thanks for always being there for me even though we’ve never met, I hope you have someone in your life who is always there for you too ❤️

  28. As always, an awesome video. Love your content, it’s always so informative and helpful! Could you do a video Sudden Repulsion Syndrome?

  29. I love this! You're speaking my language! I'm obsessed with psychology and THIS is something I've not heard about in this manner! LOVE YOUR CONTENT, THANK YOU SO MUCH 😎❤

  30. This is so weird to me, as schema therapy was introduced way differently for me by multiple (!!) therapists/psychologists. They said we literally make a "schema" (it's Dutch for a content table) on paper for a GGGG-schema. Gebeurtenis (event), Gedachte (thought), Gevoel (feeling) and Gevolg (consequence). So you fill in what happened, what you thought right after, what that made you feel, and what the consequence is. Then they point out that it's your thought process about the event that made you feel negative, and not the event, which then in turn caused the consequence. They then point out that our thoughts can shape how we deal with events, so the answer lays within our thoughts. They then ask to think of a helpful thought.
    I asked what I could possibly think that would make getting severely bullied, abused even, by not just my classmates, but a large portion of the school and even some teachers… what could make being constantly so terribly sick I can hardly get up most days and doctors don't even believe me (I now, 10 years later, know I have Crohn's Disease)… Having the school tell me they don't know how to help me, so I'll have to figure it out… I asked what thought could possibly help me through this.
    They said 'I'm still here, so I must be strong.' I said 'well true, but that's not changing anything.' Therapist: 'But you felt better, right? See? Your thought made your feeling better.' Me: 'And tomorrow I'll be getting kicked off my bike again, but sure.' Therapist: 'Now, that wouldn't be a helpful thought, now would it?'
    This is how schema therapy was offered to me multiple times. I felt discredited and completely abandoned. I was being physically and emotionally abused, and got told my thoughts about it were the real problem here…
    Schema therapy has therefore gotten to be part of my trauma triggers…
    The way schema therapy is explained in this video seems way different though. It even seems to touch on imaginative rescripting, which I'm doing now and am really positive about.
    I'm so confused…
    Kati help put this into context for me please… Was I lied to? Was the therapist confused? Am I confused? I don't get it anymore… 🙁

  31. I swear by this therapy style. I have BPD (and Bipolar type II) and I have been treated with schema therapy for about a year now. I started with high scores on all schema themes (the 18 themes) and am now down to very low on almost all of them. Schema therapy helped me understand not only my mental illness but create understanding towards myself and how I cope and conduct myself. I am on my way towards a steady recovery and do recommend schema therapy to anyone who is willing to dig deep and really get to the bottom of things. Find a therapist you can trust and go for it, recovery is possible!

  32. I think schema therapy might help with my childhood emotional neglect regarding feeling loss of attachment to my mother in early childhood. I have never been able to develop imtimate relationships with a sexual partner and have always been single. your comments would be appeciated

  33. Kati- could you please give me your opinion on MRT therapy? My therapist recommended it to me and I had my first group session last night. I'm a bit overwhelmed and not sure if I can commit to another "step" program. I'm already working a 12 step and have been for 5 years. One is free and another cost me money. I want an objective view and honest opinion from someone I trust. And that… is in fact… you! 😂 💕💯🤷🏼‍♀️

  34. My therapist suggest me to do schema therapy but i dont think i had a neglected childhood or traumatic experiences. I don't know why she suggested me

  35. Thinking that they could have named this something better. Saw your video mentioned on YouTube and figured it was about some sort of therapy that is actually a scheme.

  36. My question is: can emotional incest occur between siblings? I’ve recently come to the realization that my twin brother has been manipulating and abusing my love and trust. He’s been sleeping with multiple of my close friends then he’ll brag to me about it and I tell him it makes me uncomfortable and that I don’t want him sleeping with my friends, but since he knows I’ll always love him, there’s no real incentive for him to stop. Even though it really upsets me. I don’t want to end our relationship. But now we’re talking 7 of my best friends. And those relationships have all grown very distant because of this. It seems like the only option is to stop bringing my friends around and distance myself from him.

  37. First (group)therapy that's ever worked for me. It's so inclusive for all my problems (BPD, depression, anxiety, maladaptive dreaming, eating disorders, addictions, depersonalisation disorder, PTSD, and more). It tackles the core problems, the 'cause', ánd the present/current situation.
    If you feel like you have 'too much' for most therapies, ask your therapist about schema therapy. It might not be for you but it won't hurt to ask/try!

  38. Hi Kati, my problems are getting worse. I’m starving and cutting myself more. I don’t know what to do, the only person who knows is suggesting help. But i don’t want to get help, i like the way i’m living. Is that normal? I am only 13 so if i tell a teacher or a councillor the news will go straight to my parents. I don’t know what to do, please help.

  39. If we want to submit a question, like the lengthy one you answered in your cheating video, do we just post it in a comment or is there somewhere else you take questions to inspire video ideas?

  40. My psychologist specialised in bpd and we did schema therapy, it was incredible. I couldn't engage in therapy at all before we started it.

  41. This is very helpful can nail biting be considered a scema? I have biten my nails ever since I could remember and I have tried so many things to try and stop but it almost seems obsessive and I just can't quit. I just seen my therapist yesterday and I will bring it up however I just wanted to know your thoughts.
    Thank you.

  42. Kati, that was very well explained! I am doing schema therapy for a while now with my therapist to overcome my maladaptive behavior patterns and we are working with the inner child, the adult and the parent. You mentioned there are more modes. Could you maybe do a video where you go more into depth with these modes? Thank you so much

  43. Schema therapy followed by mindfulness based cognitive behavioral therapy helped me with my dysthymia aka chronic depression. My therapist recommended reading the self-help book based on the therapy first so that I could take more of an active role in my therapy. I believe the book is called Reinventing Your Life and it's author is the therapist who created the therapy Jefferey Young. In the book schemas are called lifetraps.

  44. Ive seen the term "schema therapy" around a bit recently and thought "I wonder what that is?" but never checked it out. Then you made this video! This sounds like something that could really be helpful for me (self dx bpd). I'm seeing an intern counselor at my uni and doing dbt group but I feel like it's barely scratching the surface. I think I'll try to bring up schema next time and see what happens. Thank you, Kati!

  45. Does Schema therapy for PTSD really help? I do not think my insurance pays for mental health like therapy. Is there some self-help book to read or is that counter productive to me?

  46. UMMM this is the video that I never knew I needed! Katie- how can i go about asking my therapist to help me with this?

  47. Schema therapy shows different modes contain different feelings and behaviors. One mode would contain anger and another mode would contain feelings of emptiness, and so on. The patient identify these modes in therapy and use specific cognitive strategies for each mode. The sluice for learning opens in high affective states so the patient becomes aware of the mode and use the cognitive strategies taught to them by the therapist to confront & deal with the affect associated with the specific mode. It allows the patient to identify the moment they are triggered and if they are feeling punitive, abandoned, angry, impulsive, detached and they use specific cognitive strategies to combat that mode.

  48. I have Complex PTSD and I’ve been seeing my therapist since November. She told me today that Schema therapy is the route she wants to go down. I dissociate a lot and I did today in session so I’m so glad to come across this video. You’ve been great in explaining everything. Thank you

  49. I have been in cbt for a few years with a great psychologist. We ddiscuss schema often. Automatic responses, maladaptive coping, etc. I have drastically changed the way I respond to situations. Thanks for the detailed look, Kati.

  50. Dear Kati. Would it be possible to make lists display on the screen? For example, when listing the three coping styles. Thank you and keep up the good work. 🙂

  51. Im an over compensator and I am diagnosed with an eating disorder and struggle with OCD like beahviors

    Also once i get out of Ph d training I will likely put together a therapy way using schema since it seems quite helpful! Im also excited to conduct studies and be able to help clients.

  52. @Kati Morton: Thank you for the great explanation. Would you recommend any paper or document in which the relationship between the 18 schemas and the 11 coping styles or the 10 modes are studied? For example, what are the modes and coping styles associated with the "negativity" schema?

  53. People can jump very quickly from one schema mode to another (even in minutes). This is often missed and leads to a bipolar 2 diagnosis in my experience.

  54. This is the kind of therapy I need. I'm anxious about therapy, in general, but I don't even know how to get it when I can't afford it. The only insurance I have is Medicaid, and most therapists don't take it, at least from what I've noticed when searching for someone in my area.

  55. Schema therapy really provide insight about problem that i always struggle in my-Self esp the Modes in schema therapy.

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